Can anyone else relate to this?

it's me he wants to talk to because I know him.

.... I remember ex's mum saying that finally he'd found someone he could confide in. He himself said that he finally had met someone that "understood him". Yes, I sure did! And in his divorce antics; I understand that also...

...nearest and dearest gets all the blame. This is what counsellors call PROJECTION. (Blaming someone else for their actions) When the affair's over; (after all - they found they couldn't talk to the new person) they come back asking if we'll accept what they did.

They are incapable of making their own decisions.

This is spot on and applies to wives just as much as husbands. Very well put and thought out. Makes perfect sense and explains a lot that has happened in the last few months. Good find

It doesn't excuse anything tho. I expected my wife to not do this and I don't think that was expecting too much

I read a statistic that 70% of husbands have cheated on their wives; and 30% of women cheated on their husbands. Agree it works both ways.
Haven't worked out yet how marriages survive that once they're caught?

Sera, it's not we don't understand them, we understand them too well. The new person doesn't yet so falls for all their crap and lies.

fitbird wrote:

falls for all their crap and lies.

Just as I did I guess. (Sorry - Spamming!)

Sera wrote:

I read a statistic that 70% of husbands have cheated on their wives; and 30% of women cheated on their husbands. Agree it works both ways.
Haven't worked out yet how marriages survive that once they're caught?

Wow! That's a depressing statistic if it's true

The staststic I read was 70% of men, 62% of women. Cant Believe its that high though. Yes I had the opportunities. No I didn't take them. Guilt would kill me. She on the other hand had no conscience.