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I think I am just having a really down day. I long for someone to basically want me and say I am a nice bloke. She has too much power, part of me believes what she says.

Just a really bad day.

Confused
You are a really nice bloke and don''t let anyone make you feel that you aren''t. Agree with everyone else concentrate on you and your children.
My two have done great so far in their lives and that is despite their father not because of him.
I would have given anything to have a nice bloke rather than the spineless coward I ended up with.
Good luck.

It is hard when the kids are at school. I am off work, big question mark over that, mostly because I have no idea what my wife is planning. Find myself sitting alone, waiting for someone to pop up on Facebook to talk to, god that''s pathetic

For the last few evenings my wife calls from her ''lovers'' house, wherever that may be. He appears to have grand kids, or similar in the house and my youngest now believe that their mum has had another baby. Obviously this is upsetting for them. I have asked her to go somewhere quiet or not bother calling, this is fair, right???

What every one has said is true. t happened to me too, after 18yrs take one day at a time, eat,try not to drink alcohol, I know its tempting. Give yourself some you time, take deep breaths, try to keep calm, things do get better, I know all the hurt, pain, deception. It is true in a week or two you will think differently to today. It''s very early day''s and it does get better, please believe it. This site here is wonderful and the people here are or have been through similar things, you will gain strength from this site. It''s not as scarey as you think, your just not thinking clearly now, your in shock.
Please take care of your self, it''s not your fault what''s happened.
Keep reading other posts and you will see your not alone.

Your wife is being selfish, of course she should call her children from somewhere that is quiet.

You know that.You also know that you shouldn''t be the one that points this out to her.

Oh and one other thing, you will find someone who respects you one day.
You are a decent guy as you are the one that is caring for your children.

confused, I hear and feel that pain... Carry on doing as you are doing, and posting on here. I am in similar position, and just reading others posts has helped. I haven''t offered my own, Yet...