Time For Acceptance

Listen.

You have listed a miriad of reasons and excuses for why you feel you are in the "right" but, the lad has voted with his feet and has stayed resolute as to what he wants to do and where he wants to stay. All your rhetoric is redundant when the free will of your son has decided that he leaves you and moves in with his Dad.

He has made allegations about you to SS and yet he still wants to come and visit you. I have read ALL of your posts and all they do is denegrate the Father and yet he has done nothing wrong, as far as your lad is concerned, and he has the maturity to make his own mind up.

Seriously, if this was a Father who's son had moved into the Mother's home following a seperation and had given testament to the SS regarding the Father, everyone would be backing the Mother.

As it is, the son has moved out, complained to SS and yet you still blame the Father!!!!

I am getting a bit fed up with you dissing the Father when in truth, it is the lad who has decided what he wants to do...

To be honest; a lad of his age needs his Father more than a Mother anyway and perhaps, he has made the right choice afterall?

Gargoyle, you seem to get a perverse enjoyment out of being deliberatley argumentative and obtuse on many of the threads on here...but this is not the thread for you. This is a very raw and emotive thread and you need to back off and let others who are more supportive offer their kind words and advice. As my mother always used to say - if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all.

MB, I am so, SO glad that you didn't tell your son that you could no longer see him. Keep being the wonderful mum that I know you are. Be strong, and big big hugs. xx

Gargoyle wrote:

Listen

Says it all!!

Elle wrote:

Gargoyle wrote:

Listen

Says it all!!

Yes it surely does. And if she listened to her own advice to others, she would sit down at the table and find out why her son has made allegations to the SS and why he wants to live with his Father...

Why would a 13 year old lad make such things up?

As the OP said in her opening Post, "there's no smoke without fire."

You had my attention Gargoyle and I responded the best I could and I am sorry that you are so gender biased against mothers but hey ho there is room for both of us. Thanks for taking the time to read all my posts and discarding my viewpoint and actual life experience, my value as a woman and a mother. Anyway you have made your point I don't think you having anything more useful to add so maybe move onto your next woman berating post fix and leave mine alone now thank you.

mummybear38 wrote:

You had my attention Gargoyle and I responded the best I could and I am sorry that you are so gender biased against mothers but hey ho there is room for both of us. Thanks for taking the time to read all my posts and discarding my viewpoint and actual life experience, my value as a woman and a mother. Anyway you have made your point I don't think you having anything more useful to add so maybe move onto your next woman berating post fix and leave mine alone now thank you.

Exactly what I expected.

Just because I am not some nodding hen who agrees with everything you say, you think I am gender biased.

Does your son think the same?

I doubt it....

If this was a Father arguing that his son wants to live with his Mother, there would be no arguments. But, because the son wants to move away from the Mother, it must be the Father's fault even though the son has made allegations to the SS about her.

Beggars belief and biasse if you ask me..

Mummybear-I cannot claim to have read all of your threads, but those I have read show an insightful, intelligent , loving mother who does her best for her children against all odds. I do not make a habit of jumping in on some of the arguments here, but this is one where I feel I have to say you have my support.
I am so glad that you have continued your relationship with your son and I am sure in time maturity will enable him to see both viewpoints and make sensible decisions.
13 is such a difficult age anyway, without all the extra hassle a split family brings.
I wish you luck in your endeavours to remain a loving mother.

Weeme x