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Discuss the role of mediation in divorce. Does it work? How much does it cost? What happens if my ex pulls out? Where can I find a mediator?

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Pros and cons of mediation for variation of S.M Hi Please can anyone explain the pros and cons of attending mediation when ex has applied to vary SM in the consent order. I do not agree to m ... 28 May 15, by Nancy 123 Latest 16 Jun 15 by Keijen	Replies:6 :512	Latest by Keijen 16 Jun 15
2nd Mediation booked - how can be best prepared??? Hi All, To cut a long story short, husband left me 10 months ago with a 9 month old baby and 3 yr old, totally unexpected on my part. Found out he was ... 28 Apr 15, by misstogether Latest 29 Apr 15 by Fiona	Replies:4 :612	Latest by Fiona 29 Apr 15
Mediation questions Could someone please answer a couple of questions for me regarding mediation. Why do I have to see my stbx bank statements etc and he see mine if mediation ... 18 Mar 15, by treaclepie Latest 15 Apr 15 by Fiona	Replies:3 :472	Latest by Fiona 15 Apr 15
am i divorced ? decree Nisi 4th Feb. 2015 I completed my form E and returned it to mediators 16 Feb received a letter 12th March from mediators stating unless I returne ... 28 Mar 15, by russianeddie Latest 28 Mar 15 by Lostboy67	Replies:2 :565	Latest by Lostboy67 28 Mar 15
Mediation if my solicitor is not local Hello I need to find a solicitor who can apply to enforce a court order. I would like to find someone who can then deal with my variation order as my e ... 18 Mar 15, by Nancy 123 Latest 20 Mar 15 by Fiona	Replies:3 :442	Latest by Fiona 20 Mar 15
Talk then Mediation? I have suggested to my husband that we see a mediator. He wants to talk before seeing a mediator but I''m an emotional wreck at the moment & struggling ... 10 Mar 15, by heartbroken3 Latest 13 Mar 15 by itsbeenalongtime 1 2	Replies:7 :1172	Latest by itsbeenalongtime 13 Mar 15
Mediation collapse Went to another session yesterday. My stbx did not comply with solicitors requests regarding further disclosure although he did throw a few bits of requested i ... 04 Mar 15, by lqt42v Latest 04 Mar 15 by Action	Replies:1 :499	Latest by Action 04 Mar 15
Bank statement disclosures and mediation We have another session next month. So far my stbx is not very forthcoming about his finances and monies he spent prior to the divorce process being undertaken ... 21 Feb 15, by lqt42v Latest 23 Feb 15 by Daisy39 1 2	Replies:13 :1588	Latest by Daisy39 23 Feb 15
Finances in mediation We have been separated for a few years and trying mediation to solve finances prior to divorce. Currently valuing assets. Do my debts that I have incurred on ... 18 Feb 15, by toppy2	Replies:0 :453
shuttle mediation effectiveness Could anyone advise on the effectiveness of shuttle mediation? ... 16 Oct 14, by samtha Latest 04 Feb 15 by Daisy39	Replies:4 :665	Latest by Daisy39 04 Feb 15
mediation and divorce papers I have just received a D8 form from my husband petitioning for divorce. He has stated in Part 10 that he wants to apply for a Financial Order. This is followi ... 31 Jan 15, by toppy2 Latest 31 Jan 15 by toppy2	Replies:4 :452	Latest by toppy2 31 Jan 15
Disclosure Booklet for Mediation For a friend! Is it acceptable to black out most of bank account numbers on statements, just leaving the last 4 digits showing for reference? Kind rega ... 25 Jan 15, by maccy2	Replies:0 :422
Involving Children in the Mediation Process I''m just wondering if anyone has any experience or thoughts around involving a child in the mediation process. I think this would be really beneficial in my si ... 22 Jan 15, by JH42 Latest 24 Jan 15 by Fiona	Replies:4 :502	Latest by Fiona 24 Jan 15
No communication Hi, We have just had our second mediation. I had done a lot of research before the session to see what both my wife and I can expect to get out of it. I printed ... 18 Dec 14, by thecrazy1 Latest 19 Dec 14 by thecrazy1 1 2	Replies:10 :993	Latest by thecrazy1 19 Dec 14
Mediation Does anyone know if there is an expected time for. Mediation to be complete, I''m in the process of divorcing my husband which i have done without employing a ... 07 Dec 14, by Louisecarol Latest 08 Dec 14 by Louisecarol	Replies:2 :437	Latest by Louisecarol 08 Dec 14
Mediation without proposal Hi, my stbx has given me her financial proposal but before I can reply with a counter proposal she has booked mediation. What happens if I don''t go will this g ... 06 Nov 14, by thecrazy1 Latest 25 Nov 14 by Fiona 1 2 3	Replies:16 :1395	Latest by Fiona 25 Nov 14
Advice on Mediation Hi, I have asked my wife on two occassions now via her solicitor to consider mediation so we can agree on the financial aspects of our seperation and also t ... 19 Nov 14, by Fed up Dad Latest 23 Nov 14 by Fed up Dad 1 2	Replies:8 :982	Latest by Fed up Dad 23 Nov 14
Mediation My husband - who walked out 4 months ago and I''m now divorcing - wants us to go to mediation to resolve the financials / assets etc. I do not trust him, he has ... 13 Nov 14, by bellalane Latest 13 Nov 14 by julie321	Replies:1 :386	Latest by julie321 13 Nov 14
Had a mediation agreement but my exes solicitor is I had a mediation session in May where my ex and I agreed an amount that she has to pay to buy me out of the jointly owned property. Since then her solicitor ha ... 03 Nov 14, by r1jay Latest 04 Nov 14 by Pipsqueakthefirst	Replies:1 :433	Latest by Pipsqueakthefirst 04 Nov 14
Worth it after first court attendance? My wife refused to go to Mediaition which led to us going to court. Some issues over finances and getting things valued have been resolved. Well i hope they hav ... 02 Nov 14, by esox11 Latest 03 Nov 14 by esox11	Replies:3 :410	Latest by esox11 03 Nov 14
Mediation difficulties Hello everyone, first post! My situation is that my husband left me at the start of last year, a few days later I discovered I was pregnant. He refused to a ... 28 Oct 14, by happylife9 Latest 30 Oct 14 by Keijen	Replies:2 :377	Latest by Keijen 30 Oct 14
Stbx refuses to speak to me - wiil mediation work? ... 28 Sep 14, by samtha Latest 16 Oct 14 by Fiona 1 2 3	Replies:14 :1271	Latest by Fiona 16 Oct 14
Telephone Mediation? I''ve had a letter from a mediation company inviting me to make an appointment. Only problem is they are over 400 miles away (but close to STBX, he cho ... 08 Oct 14, by WorldsBiggestMug Latest 09 Oct 14 by WorldsBiggestMug	Replies:3 :419	Latest by WorldsBiggestMug 09 Oct 14
Seems Like Mediation will be my only option I eventually agreed with my ex to change the days he has our boys, but this is making things difficult for me. I have problems concentrating still and am muddl ... 08 Oct 14, by HeadKnowsHeartDoesnt Latest 08 Oct 14 by MrsMathsisfun	Replies:6 :501	Latest by MrsMathsisfun 08 Oct 14
My experience of mediation Hi all I hope by relating this, it won''t put any of you off from going to mediation. This was just a bad experience for me. We had a shuttle media ... 02 Oct 14, by MomOfOne Latest 02 Oct 14 by TurboB	Replies:1 :600	Latest by TurboB 02 Oct 14
Do I have a choice of mediator? Hi All, Little bit of advice required please... I have received a letter from a mediation service saying that my stbx has referred us for medi ... 14 Aug 14, by Reignman Latest 02 Oct 14 by MomOfOne 1 2	Replies:8 :968	Latest by MomOfOne 02 Oct 14
Mediation Hi can anyone advise please, my hopefully STBX and I have been separated for nearly two years. We both have solicitors but seem to be getting nowhere briefly th ... 09 Sep 14, by Artifact Latest 10 Sep 14 by sulkypants	Replies:1 :399	Latest by sulkypants 10 Sep 14
Changine Spousal Maintenance I have been paying spousal maintenance for just under 3 years, it is due to stop at the end of next year.... I am currently paying £285/month, which w ... 01 Sep 14, by rhenson Latest 01 Sep 14 by LittleMrMike	Replies:2 :397	Latest by LittleMrMike 01 Sep 14
Disillusioned by mediator Hi, My husband and I have had 4 mediation sessions, the last one leaving me very disillusioned by the whole process. By the 3rd session, many small deta ... 11 Aug 14, by Melodie Latest 11 Aug 14 by dukey	Replies:2 :442	Latest by dukey 11 Aug 14
divorce first or through mediation Hi I wondered what the best option was out of applying directly for a divorce or doing this as part of the mediation process. Any benefits for either?< ... 05 Aug 14, by me449 Latest 09 Aug 14 by Millie73 1 2	Replies:8 :923	Latest by Millie73 09 Aug 14
FM1 Received (Couple never Married) Hi My friend has been issued with an FM1 as mediation has broken down. Ex Partner is refusing to negotiate on the sale of jointly owned home. ... 08 Aug 14, by Millie73 Latest 09 Aug 14 by Millie73	Replies:2 :401	Latest by Millie73 09 Aug 14
Mediation Not Working for Non Married Persons Hi I am posting on behalf of a friend. My friend is not married but has two children and jointly owns house with ex partner. They never married. ... 31 Jul 14, by Millie73 Latest 01 Aug 14 by Millie73	Replies:4 :428	Latest by Millie73 01 Aug 14
future budget/saving plan needed for mediation Hi Folks, please be gentle as this is my first post. (I know you will ... 28 May 14, by Mr_beeks Latest 01 Jul 14 by rover03	Replies:3 :486	Latest by rover03 01 Jul 14
heard of this mediator?... Hi, Could anyone let me know if they have used the mediator ''peaceful solutions'' based in London? Thanks ... 26 Jun 14, by Festive_spirit Latest 28 Jun 14 by WhiteRose	Replies:1 :407	Latest by WhiteRose 28 Jun 14
Told I have to pay to get FM1 signed by mediator? Hello where I live they operate a new scheme called Moving Forward which if the participants earn under £35k pa they get 3 mediation sessions free. 16 Jun 14, by Hejofl Latest 25 Jun 14 by Hejofl	Replies:4 :503	Latest by Hejofl 25 Jun 14
Pros and cons of mediation ?? Hello there, my Stbx''s solicitor has suggested referral to mediation re finances. I honestly don''t think I can sit in the same room as him, I am feeling so m ... 10 Jun 14, by Wild bluebell Latest 10 Jun 14 by sulkypants	Replies:4 :479	Latest by sulkypants 10 Jun 14
What now? It has been now over 3 months since what I thought was my final mediation session ( 6 months of meetings). At that meeting I thought that my stbx and I had agre ... 24 Sep 11, by mightyredmen Latest 04 Jun 14 by sulkypants 1 2	Replies:10 :997	Latest by sulkypants 04 Jun 14
Percentage of lump sum I am in the middle of mediation. I accrued my pension over a 35 year period, I have recieved a lump sum and in reciept of it. I have been with my wife for 16 ye ... 03 Jun 14, by dopolous Latest 03 Jun 14 by dopolous	Replies:3 :517	Latest by dopolous 03 Jun 14
FM1 form STBX has decided not to go down the mediation route for the financial settlement side of things, and insisted on the FM1 to be given without even having a singl ... 14 May 14, by TurboB Latest 14 May 14 by TurboB	Replies:2 :401	Latest by TurboB 14 May 14
pensions Hi My ex and I have agreed that we don''t want to include pension finances as part of our financial settlement. We each have pensions and were both wo ... 25 Apr 14, by icklacknok Latest 25 Apr 14 by dukey	Replies:1 :420	Latest by dukey 25 Apr 14

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