Divorce is good ....

I think Declan''s post has been thought provoking as opposed to a can of worms.

Everyone has a different story to tell which has resulted in very varied responses to the thread.

I can speak for myself, Divorce has been good. It ended 24 years of abuse and bullying.

My life is my own and I wouldn''t go back.

Thank you it''s a been a long time and to all others... It''s been a pretty tough 12 weeks, at one point rightly or wrongly I tried to walk away from the pain ... He wouldn''t have cared.... But I hurt that badly I wanted it to stop... I just hope the sleepless nights ease soon and the tears as I''m nothing to him anymore...
I have to think forwards somehow as I know I''m s nice person ... I care too much

You are fabulous and don''t you forget it. The pain will ease and you will get to a point where it doesn''t even enter your mind. Don''t worry about him or who he is with...not your problem anymore. Look after yourself; eat, sleep, exercise (works wonders) and most of all be kind to yourself. I''m 18 months down the line and am beginning to see a light at the end of the tunnel...you will too.

Thank you so much .... I''m trying so hard to do this now, I want to prove I''m not that trash he discarded.... But he knew how to hurt me ....he kept phoning the police on me when I tried to return my car .....I did nothing wrong.... It''s my car ......

All I can do know is file and seek help/support on here as I have no way to fund this.... But I may order the law book on here and try to fight my way through this .....

Leanng...when i said a ''Can of Worms'' i meant that divorce is an unpredictable, tangled mess and like you said...thought provoking!

Autumnleaves

I am sure that this thread will continue to be thought provoking for many people on here for quite a while to come..

Hey

Your all ok in your own way . We all feel that pain .
I have and more .

That pain , that devours you , consumes you , the pain that you feel will always be there''. The hate , the anger , the sadness . That pain that I cannot go on anymore . The pain of I still love them . I still want them .
I want to go back to as it was.. I will change . I will do anything to be whole again .

I want the pain to end . I want people to comfort me , to love me , to hold me and say all will be well .

Yes , I want that . However , we have to face the truth .

A very good friend of mine said you got to face the truth . She said D until you take your head out of the sand and deal your are done . So true are those words . Until , we deal we suffer .

All I advocate is an end to rhe pain and suffering .

And , yes I have found it for me , no longer suffer .

Just trying to help

I have had a lot of responses both good and not so good to my post .

Bless all
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