Divorce is good ....

Hi

I understand what you are saying but all relationships are different.

In my case, divorce was the best thing to happen despite all the emotions and conflict that went with it.

I''m not saying it has been easy but I would be living a lie if I thought it was going to get any better.

Marriage itself can be destructive, destroying the people in it. So what might be right for one may not be right for another.

Ahh Leaning

Read your words again hun,
It was for the best....

That is world apart from divorce being good ...

I think we are on a completely different page.

You have your thoughts and I have mine.

My stbx will no doubt agree that divorce is good. He has left 30 years of baggage behind. Walked off with a suitcase full of money to start his life all over again. hardly talks to the kids. (guilt I hope)
I am left with a house full of memories and dont know where to start finding the new me. It doesn''t matter how many friends and family I have around me and as wonderful as they are, I am still very lonely.
I have said before, we all change as we get older and change is good. We had many challenges in our marriage, mostly created by him, but I worked through them because I am/was married.
I know my children wont say divorce is good for me.

Hi all,

Yes, like I have said and so many others have too, over the many years I have seen on Wiki, one shoe does not fit all. There are those who have lives that are liberated and enhanced for the better from divorce and there are those of us who live the lessons learned, in many ways, but appreciate that our family units were better off together had both partners tried harder. There are those of us who know that our X''s are like nomads, still seeking that green grass, having seen that what they left us for was that muddy shade of sh!t, only to go in search of what they already had!

Yes leanng, we all have different thoughts for each divorce in it''s own right, comes with a different story.

For those of us who sing from Afon''s hymn sheet, we were better together, a family. I personally spend a lot of time thinking about the sad horrible things going on today in the world and feel that if we all took stalk and tried harder to support and love our families more, the world would be a better place. Kindness should begin at home, wherever we are and not throwing in the towel because the grass ''might'' greener elsewhere, then the world may just be better for it. Loving and caring for our own, not turning our backs when we are needed most!

My X was not a bad man deep down, he was just never satisfied, always in chase of the next best thing, that mint condition life, but he had as good as he was ever going to get, he had three little people who loved and adored him, it was never enough for him, he wanted more, more, more!

So, divorce was not good for my family, however it is packaged. There is a hole that can never be filled in with bullsh!t, it is what it is. But, as a family of three we get by, happy enough as we can be under the circumstances, but that nut and bolt that held the four of us together has gone never to be replaced. I find, in my circumstance and I am sorry to have to say this divorce has not been good for my family.

Let''s say we all beg to differ!

Take care for now FoS x

Flowers,my sentiments exactly...

Our family of four lost itself when we lost him,but we as three rallied,and got on with things....
Then the little man made us four again...

Although he won''t have the same relationship with his Grandad as his Mammy and his Aunty had with their beloved Sha Sha,their Sha Sha taught them more than any school,any books etc could teach them...He taught them about nature,seasons etc,he taught them humility,he taught them to be proud of their place on this earth and one of the biggest things he gave them was his unconditional love....

So please don''t anyone tell my little man divorce is good,because of divorce he will be denied that relationship with his Grandad,because unfortunately his Grandad has lost himself on this journey also ...

Hi

So many thoughts about divorce on here all valid .

If divorce is bad ... Then staying in a unhealthy relationship is bad is it not
Surely , children want to see both parents happy ... Life is not roses around the door all the time .

As I said I am not whole yet I still have work to do issues to deal with .

For me , I prefer to read about and focus on the positive side of divorce . I am so fed up of the negative .... All that does is make me feel worse .. Taking me a long time to learn I know

My thoughts that''s all ,

D