Partner left my stuff out in the rain?????

Well as always ...I THANK ALL of you who reply and the kind advice...I will now go in the corner of my BOX flat ... and lick my wounds'' for the next 20yrs and hope I will have a little sanity left at the end of this if I make it to the next hurdle

THANK YOU ALL

My apologise if I have offended anyone..

till the next advice I seek ...

Mum2boys I was thinking exactly the same thing on insurance when I read this post.

If something has got accidentally damaged in the rain whilst being removed, it might just be something that can be claimed as part of accidental damage cover.

If you regularly take this equipment out of the home as a second income stream, given the value I suspect you may have insurance cover for out of the home that encompasses accidental damage.

You''ve got nothing to lose by by asking. People claim on accidental damage insurances for dropping irons on carpets etc. Its worth a try......

jeanclaude wrote:

Well as always ...I THANK ALL of you who reply and the kind advice...I will now go in the corner of my BOX flat ... and lick my wounds'' for the next 20yrs and hope I will have a little sanity left at the end of this if I make it to the next hurdle

THANK YOU ALL

My apologise if I have offended anyone..

till the next advice I seek ...

This is the perfect place to rant and vent your anger - you will get support and advice (some of it probably not what you want to hear) but because some here have been in your shoes - had their home, car, children, livelihoods taken away from them during divorce, they can share their experience and advise accordingly.

There are members here who never had their personal possessions back, sentimental as well as necessary.

I say this is not to out-do your obvious frustration, but to let you know you are in the midst of friends, of people who have lost - just like you.

Many have moved forward enough to have lost that raw heat of anger that you are feeling, but don''t mistaken this for not caring about you.

I like the idea that you try to claim back the cost of replacement in the settlement - hey it''s worth a try. You need an inventory of the items, a cost to replace and the pictures.

Get the anger out - it''s unhealthy to keep it in.

Take care

WR

Hi WhiteRose.
As I said I do appreciate all the advice that I have been given in here. I am not angry.Frustrated, livid, but most of all very sad that I keep thinking my daughter will grow up with a person with so much hatred and bitterness it saddens me, most of all scares me, and hope that in the time I do see my daughter which is once a month, I can show her that there is love and plenty of it from me to give her as she grows up.

Once again thank you all xxxxxx

Hi jeanclaude,

Rant away, thats what we are here for as you said you do not want your daughter to grow up with a person full of bitterness and hatred, well done you, rant rant and rant some more, get it all out, it really helps, hope you have some luck in claiming back under insurance or settlement, all the best:) .

Hxxx

Hey JC, Hope you are feeling better today,
White Rose is right about not letting the anger get to you.
I was in the same position, felt like I was walking around with the words ''p****d off!!'' Stamped on my fore head
One time I yelled at a traffic warden so loudly for hovering near my car, the poor guy legged it. (This was divorce anger and of course I was terrified of not being able to afford the ticket and legal fees at the same time)

After a while, I realised the anger was eating me up inside, it was making me weak, took up too much of my energy.

Same traffic warden, different day. Rushed up to him and said politely, my life is pretty awful at the mo,I really do not need a ticket right now. He smiled, told me to relax, enjoy the sunshine and walked off.

If only divorce could be that simple

I still get angry, but now I learn to recognise the anger and just let it pass through, it''s tough but the difference is I feel stronger, more in control of who I am, not allowing injustice to invade my mental space.

My ex still has loads of my belongings, some valuable, some very sentimental that cannot be replaced, I don''t know if I will get it back but I do know that nothing is worth my peace of mind.

Phew! Don''t know where all this came from....
Sorry to hijack your post, hope you get something from it

Best
PG

JC, for contrast please see my recent post about personal belongings. I too had a non-mol against my ex (now have an undertaking in place instead), so he could not collect his stuff, but after more than a year I was tired of living amongst his belongings.
I packed up his stuff carefully into plastic storage boxes, I loaded it into my car, I delivered it to his current residence (his mum''s house), at a date and time I had previously advised him of, I unloaded it all onto the doorstep, with him present so he could immediately take it safely into the house, there were no nasty words exchanged, no voices raised ....
and then he lodged a complaint of harassment against me with the police. (which they have not pursued)
Seriously, this divorce lark is an effing nightmare from either side.