Can you relate to this - the other side is us

I was thinking about the article that linda C found about the middle age crises. The post got so many reactions and most of us agreed that our exs behaved in a very similar way (like one kind of species of a human race).

I was just thinking that maybe us, the betrayed wifes (or husbands) also have a lot in common. Maybe we attract this kind of personality and unless we address the issues, our future relationships are going to be doomed in the same way.

I certainly can see similarity between mine and my parents marriage - my father, a very insecure man, who needed alcohol to boost his confidence, who felt worthless and not good enough, very immature, unable to manage his finances...(all that applies to my ex, except for the alcohol is replaced by sex in my ex's life). My mother, devoted to her family, to her children, becoming a victim in the relationship, trying to keep her dignity and independence but never succeeding to break away from him, losing her confidence as a result of emotional and verbal abuse inflicted by my father and being constantly put down by him.. All that applies to me. I was told by my counsellor that I was replaying my parents marriage scenario in my own marriage. And I also think that in certain ways I must have facilitated his behaviour towards me and our family.

Not being an expert(or very good at spelling) I think counsellors will say that your marriage may mimic parents as that is where you first learnt about relationships.I can't see it in mine though. I believe it also has a lot to do with wife/father relationship and husband/mother relationship.

Or it could all just be a load of b******s!!