I've ruined my life

Lsot,

she sounds like a remarkable woman. Well worth making the effor for. You keep it up and never forget why you are doing it.

Hadenoughnow

What a great post to read, i hope everything gets sorted out and you have a great woman there.

Work at it and i hope there is a great future for you.

Best of luck!!!!

Thanks guys, she is remarkable .

If you had told me this wuold happen 12 days ago, I wouldn't have believed it. I had no hope and no future.

I am lucky in a lot of respects:

1. She did this for me, even though it hurt her badly. She wanted me to sort myself out and she felt it was the only thing she could do.
2. I never lost sight of what I needed to do, and don't intend to slacken off, ever.
3. Having the support of both our boys, neither took sides, no-on bad mouthed anyone else.
4. I am a romantic old sod and I find it difficult to believe that a person can ever be hearltess. (I've watched too many movies!)
5. I didn't follow the 'guide books' and kept in touch.

I hope that it all works out in the end.

I have you lot out there to thank for helping me through the intial stages and probably the next few weeks as well!!

((((everyone))))

Hi there Zara here,
I am back from my weekend away and have read through your posts.
I am glad that you are feeling better and feeling like you have something to live for now.
This is the first and biggest step for you, now you will have lots of little ones to make. Try and keep your head level, and be prepared for perhaps some days it might not feel as simple.
I am pleased for you, writing poetry as well. Be strong, and show you are stronger now.
Keeping my fingers crossed for you as always.
Zara

Hi lost. That's really good news mate! Fingers crossed for you - I hope it works out for you both. In a few years, you may look back at all this as the making of you

But please don't even think of a celebratory drink, or don't be tempted to backslide now the worst of it may be over. You've got plenty of slog in front of you yet - prove that you deserve your wife's faith in you

That said, it's a pleasure to read something positive like this!

Just to echo the comments above. Well done Lsot and Matt, you have really made a difference (to each other and to us reading this) and I really hope it all works out.
Accepting the problem means you can put it right no matter how hard it will be.
Bert

wow. brilliant new there lsot1, just don't slip now, she is a special lady, you already know that though:) I hope you have a lovely future ahead of you.

New you,new start.

It's so good to hear of a happy ending.