How do you people cope? This is killing me!

Matt,

sorry to hear about your work, surely this should be a time where you can concentrate on other things other than you crap personal life. I had the same issues and my work demanded I came back in. Would not give compassionate leave so I have had to work my first full week this last week.
My work complain that I'm going for counselling and have appoinments at 9am to see the doctor for sleeping pills.
I'm not one for going out to bars drinking and am not drinking anyhow such as you.
I've lost over 6 lbs since July 3rd and havn't eated a proper meal since 30th June. My dad forced me to eat a burger meal on July 4th arrggghhhh.

Matt you really need to find yourself. You are the only one who can save yourself. Get some counselling as this will help you realise how important you are to yourself. You need to be able to come to terms with your sorrow / guilt and forgive yourself. I cant stand people saying "get over it" because you never will. It will always be burnt on your heart. Dramatic issues in our lives will change us and not always for the better. You need to get of this road of self destruction.

I know I'm a fine one to talk I am a right mess at the moment and cant stop my own feeling but I'm trying to help you through ignoring my own issues / feelings.

Matt take care

Ricky

Stay close, we'll get through this together m8

M

I have been having similar roller coaster feelings - I am fine most of the time and then am in tears. A friend who had gone through divorce suggested a herbal remedy 'St John's wort' as a way of stabilising the emotional roller coaster - I have been on this for a week now and it has lifted my mood and helped me make it through the day so I can function more normally.
You could check it out.

Dadsrus

Hi Matt,

I too have been where you are and had the feeling of being on a rollercoaster, All the highs and lows.., mainly low.

I did not have a drink for months as I knew that I would do something really stupid if I did.

My husband walked out on myself and the two children after being together for 18yrs. Quite out of the blue and unexpected. He had, in his words, fallen in love with someone else.

I know you have probably heard this a hundred times, but time is a great healer. Take each day as it comes and do dont expect too much. Don't look too far into the future, just concentrate on getting through that day. Keep yourself busy and be around people. My family and friends have been great and have listened to me go over mu life a thousand times, but still support and listen to me. Talking is a must.

I am 9 months down the line and still have moments of sadness but not in the same depth as they were in the beginning. The pain gets less and less as time goes on. We are all different, and there is no limit to how long the pain goes on for. All I can say is from my experience is does get better and I was at rock bottom 8 months ago.

I know that you will get through this and I know you will have a life again. Please remember that how your life is now is not how it will remain. IT WILL CHANGE.... FOR THE BETTER.

I am positive now that I have a life to look forward to.... new challanges, new people, new experiences. If I ask you to remain positive will not seem possible for you at this time so I will be positive for you. Take care.

Big Hug from me.

CandyW x