Why won't she divorce him? **update added**

NellNoRegrets wrote:

Is it bothering you that your partner and his wife haven't started the divorce process?[/quote]

A bit really, well yes if Im honest.I know it's bothering him as he's keen to move on.

Ursa Major wrote:

How long is it since he told her he was leaving, and how long were they together before that?

She moved out in March 2010. They married about 18 months previously but had been together for 15 years.

I was married for 13 years.

Feel I need to say that...
No children are involved
They both moved out of the marital home.
We have paid and continue to pay mortgage payments and the secured loan on the property. So she could sort out herself financially and get somewhere to live.

My opinion (for what it's worth - having no psychic powers whatsoever).

I dont think she's emotionally ready to move on to the divorce stage yet, she has 15 years of togetherness and only 10 months of being on her own. She will have had to get through her first birthday, Christmas, New Years Eve, Anniversary of first date, when he proposed, wedding day etc on her own. I don't actually think she is dragging her feet at all.

Trying not to put this harshly but I think your expectations are not in touch with her reality.

Thanks
I think/know your right. Maybe he should just wait a while longer.

xtcc wrote:

Thanks
I think/know your right. Maybe he should just wait a while longer.

Meybe he should divorce her. It doesnt matter who divorces who. And you cant realy move on a couple until yr both free. C.

For me im not in any rush were together and that won't change.We went though so much and regretably hurt so many people to make that happen.
I just didn't really understand why she hasn't started the divorce? I think about the replies to this thread and understand that she needs to get through the breakup at her own speed.
If he divorces her it will probably ad insult to injury and cost us more in solicitors fees.