Why won't she divorce him? **update added**

Yes Wyspecial

Bit cross today!

She signed the Petition, he took it to the court with the fee. He recieved his D10 through the post and returned it that night.

Now she's delaying on going to the court to swear the affidavit! it's been over a week now.

Some people get exactly what they ask for and still mess about!!

Nothing he can do though:angry:

By the sounds of it she wants it as much as him.

Can I say though that a week isn't that long, and maybe she'll do it when she's next by the court.

I think you need to forget about it and if she hasn't done it by the end of the month then ask your man to chase it up.

Chill! all good things come to those who wait

xx

Thanks vivi36,that did make me smile
I do need to chill your right.
I do things straight away and get upset everytime when people take their time.
Thanks
Were just worried. Long story but she really has taken a lot of money off him and me, so we just want to cut our losses and move on ASAP suppose were worried she's trying to take us for another few hundred.

You do need to be patient, this is probably not high on her list of priorities...remember that she didnt ask for the divorce so she probably thinks that she needs not jump through hoops for you.
Poster is right, give her a month and then chase it up. Some people find the whole going into court thing quite daunting and emotional.
You may want to find out if she can sign the afidabit at a solicitors local to her, I think she can for a small fee. This may be a better option as the whole court thing sucks

Or she could just be like me, who walked around with her affidavit in her bag for 4 weeks!

I was Petitioner, we agreed to divorce... but in the day to day scheme of things, racing home to catch a local solicitor's office before closing just didn't feel to be my biggest priority.

What I think is hard for you is waiting for things to happen and you're not driving any of it.

But honestly? I'd cut her some slack - the situation she's in isn't her choosing and she isn't dragging her feet nearly as much as she could. In fact, as someone else said, waiting a week is a bit like chomping at the bit.... let it go at its own pace. You'll get there fast enough

Shezi

Just been browsing your thread, interested to know how it went - in a similar situation myself... Thanks

She may be still trying to get her head around why her husband wanted to sleep with someone else.

Have you considered this option? She hasn't entirely got 'everything she wanted' because she hasn't asked for that.

I think she could hold up the process and the more it seems to be bothering you, the more she is likely to hold things up.

By the time he is 'free' he may have moved onto another person and cut you out entirely. Is that your primal fear?