Social services are ruining my life

In my opinion , given the facts I cannot see in any way how social services will allow you and your bf to be in a relationship without the intervention of social services, and I believe it will be alot more than just weekly or monthly app.

It will be a bumpy road as the child involved is so young .

i am happy for the social services to stay in our life to help us become a family is there any places that to free angermanagement courses or dv courses as my partner is currently out of work i no its going to be a bumpy ride but i am willing to do everything i can @ sherbet

i understand he needs to start to do these things to prove not only to social workers but to me that he is serious about being a father to my daughter and a partner to me and to show me aswell as them that he has changed for good. it wernt violent to being btu then alot of difficult things happens i.e we went homeless money less we never had food friends family at the time and we grew to depend on each other for everything thats when we began to get violent as we spent 24/7 together its no excuse for his actions or mine but now there is a child invovled we just want to make it right and be given a chance to succeed in life @ pixy

If he has a history of violence and abuse that's sufficiently bad for social services to consider him a danger to your daughter, then he doesn't need anger management but an abuser programme. These are much more thorough and involve the abuser admitting and accepting that they have been abusive and changing their behaviour and their attitude.

Anger managment doesn't tend to work in these situations as it just gives the abuser more control over him or herself - so they find other ways to abuse instead.

A proper abuser programme should last about six months and also keep in touch with you and with social services about his progress. Please don't go back to him unless he has completed one of these successfully and been assessed by social services as safe.

were do i find these programmes and will social services take my daughter if we be open and honest and say that we do want to be a family

would imagine they will be more likely to take her if they find out you are seeing him secretly. It must have been pretty bad for them to take such actions and it may well be that you have to make the choice. Your baby or him? The social services just want to ensure you and her are safe, they cant do their job if you dont tell them whats going on.

talk to your social worker and tell her you want to get back together but won't until you bf can prove himself. I'm sure someone more knwoledgeable than me can give you a steer about courses/counselling for him, but so can your social worker. You need to ask her to help you both to formulate an action plan aimed at restoring the family unit. But you also need to realise that this wil take time. Whatever you do don't let him move in until social services are happy that he will not harm you or the baby.

Do you seriously believe, that he will not beat you up again???
No job, no attempt to sort anything.
Ditch him and look after the kid properly on your own.