How to tell a guy it''s over?

I wonder how much that was motivated by your sub conscious wanting to get back with your husband. you know the bloke you posted this week who was sad and lonely in his 4 bed detached house on his own and your son told you nobody deserves to be that sad.
You should explore how you feel about that, because my gut feeling is you''re lining up for a reconciliation whether you know that yet or not.
Remember I am always right.
All the best
HRH x

Haway
I always value your opinion and honesty!
I know you are usually right but actually there is no chance of a reconciliation with the ex. It has never been an option.

He has said the odd comment about regret, remorse, guilt, and missing ''things we used to share'' but he has never explicitly said he misses ME or that he still loves me. If you love someone you will fight for them and not be afraid to show your feelings. If he had said the right things in the first year after we split then yes I would have tried again, but after I found out about the vile OW and realised where his loyalties lie then that was the end for me.

I have posted on here lots of times when I''ve had blips and admitted that I still love him and still miss him, and at times I pine for the life we used to share and the person he used to be.

I''m glad that my heart hasn''t turned to stone and that despite the despicable way he betrayed me, I still care about him and I guess I always will BUT he has never asked me to go back to him, and I am far too down the road to recovery to go backwards.

The latest guy made me realise just how much the ex neglected me and didn''t meet my needs. I deserve to be treated properly with love and affection and to feel cherished by a man. Hey - I''m worth it!!

Sorry Patsy but I''m with haway on this.

Just had something very similar happen to me . Won''t bore you with the whole story ( my post says it''s all) but think deep down you might be like my ex gf...strong feelings for ex .

Ask yourself if ex asked you outright to give it another go would you?

My ex gf seemingly talked the same talk but when it came to crunch she couldn''t resist the lure of trying again. Could you ?

Popoliv I''m sorry it didn''t work out with your girlfriend.

I read your reply and let myself imagine my ex sitting beside me and asking me to try again.

My instict was that I felt quite sick!!

I know I post on here from time to time about missing him, and missing my old life and when I''m having a really bad day I do want him back - the person he used to be though NOT the person he has turned into.

No I could never trust him again for one thing and another thing - through counselling and reflection I have realised that I deserve so much more than the way he used to treat me. He didn''t treat me badly but he didn''t love and cherish me the way a husband should.

I ended it with the latest guy because I didn''t have strong enough feelings for him, and also because I''m genuinely enjoying my single life. After being in a relationship for 22 years its actually refreshing to have the freedom to do what I like and I''m embracing it.

I''m sure I''ll have more blips along the way, but I''m feeling really content with the life that I''ve made for myself and very blessed with all that I have.

SO now it''s time to send off the divorce papers and end that chapter of my life!

Patsy , you go go girl, I so understand what you are saying, wish you soooooo much luck for the future. xxxx

Thanks Holly.
Hope you''re feeling better today xx

NO patsy feeling s**t but thats a whole different thread xxxxxxx