Confidence returning (well a little)

So, not been on here for a while, trying to keep busy with the kids, sorting out work etc. I have however been following Marshy''s advice and I dont think she likes it.
I have found out the bloke she has move in with was already staying in a room at his sons house having walked out on his partner...
She is still messing the kids about, and not wanting to talk about anything at all. I am of the opinion that if she doesn''t do something soon then I will. I need the security that only a formal agreement can give. (I hope)

You may want to try talking less and less to her. There is nothing to be gained from saying anything other then about pick up and drop off times. The time for chat about the why''s and wherefores are long gone.

So he was having an affair also? Just goes to show that bad is attracted to bad. Your well rid. You may not agree but you are. C.

No, I agree, I deserve better... No one should work hard for their family to have their wife screwing around behind their back.
Had a school assembly today, she rolled in late, didn''t even look at her let alone speak. Then she left straight after (other bloke was waiting in his van outside), I had to deal with upset child....

Well done confused, stbx''s don''t like it when you play them at their own game.
Have you taken any legal advice yet, it might be wise to see a solicitor for a free half hour to find out where you stand.
Good luck.

Thanks Julie, yes I had my free half hour, which went on for 90 mins.... She said I was seeing her a bit early, as everyone says I am still in the early stages. She told me to sit tight, I have house, children, the stability and routine, she advised I wait to see what my wife does... Thing is she is doing nothing!?!

I went straight away just to see where I stood and as a result severed the joint tenancy on our house which means stbx does not automatically inherit if anything happened to me.
Stbx did nothing but we had agreed a maintenance payment so to be honest it suited me.
However I filed for divorce on adultery grounds this year(nearly 4 years seperated) and have just received Decree Nisi and costs against him, as he had decided to stop payments.
In mediation at the moment for financials something else he is not happy with but I am thinking of me not him.
Only you will know when the time is right to start proceedings and maybe your wife is happy with the situation, but think what is best for you. Good luck.

She is paying nothing towards the kids or house, I dont need her money but there is a principal. She wont talk about anything, I dont even know when she next wants to see the kids