Pass the barge-pole!

Sorry folks; I'm just venting: A 'friend' just e-mailed me this: (I have changed ex's name to Dickhead)

I am sorry to tell you that I have found a woman at the Eagle in Rochester who has apparently been with Dickhead last Summer....her ex Boyfriend told me about her & your husband . I was so shocked as she is still married & acts like sweetness itself. She is older, not a looker...

.......why do people feel they have to rub-it-in a year later!? Do I feel any better that she was older and not a looker????

...Like I give a damn!

Hi Sera,

Venting on wiki is good. You know that.
As for people bursting to tell you that the woman your x was seen with was older and not a looker..... I have come to the conclusion that most folk just don't think of the consequences of opening their mouths - albeit by e-mail !!!
If you are an inveterate optimist, you may consider it from this point of view : the person is actually complimenting you and telling you that you ARE a looker and younger.

But one thing seems clear to me. Oh dear, you won't want to hear this. Are you ready ?
You still do give a damn, even if it is just a teensy weensy one.
Have a drink, have a shout and a rant and then forget about it.
You now have your own life to lead.

{{{{{{{sera}}}}}}
Red XX

Sera

If this information proves one thing it is that you are definitely better off without dickhead. Obviously his taste has slipped and he is no longer good enough for you.

I would give this 'friend' the elbow and treat anything she says with suspicion if I were you. She may even be jealous of you, what are her circumstances? You often find the people like her who are willing to dump bad news on you are not doing so well themselves.

I like the way she 'found a woman' that had known dickhead, as if she had been purposely seeking one out! Maybe she had or maybe it is all in her imagination. You only have her word for it.

Take care

Shelia XXX

Hi Sera. I dont think she was trying to rub it in. I think she was just letting you know. C

It still hurts like hell having something confirmed that you suspected all along, take care now and concentrate on you and try not to think too much about Dickhead.

Saffy

Marshmellow wrote:

I dont think she was trying to rub it in. I think she was just letting you know.

...and here's where the plot thickens; and strengthens my particular and unusual Case:

I again spoke to the informer woman; and really didn't get the impression that she was saying this to be nasty. In fact; it turns out the surgically-enhanced, older, tango-ed tart thought she was also in a relationship with my ex. Apparently their relationship was conducted during my period of co-habitation with Dickhead; and whilst he was planning our wedding!!!
She's aggreived because she was dumped in very nasty circumstances (as I was!) and he'd duped her also. (How I didn't see that I don't know!)

Anywayz, my 'unusual' case (for those that haven't followed my ramblings this past year) is one of SHORT-TERM MARRIAGE; but with a Partnership (Property and businesses) involving massive contribution from me. However; it now appears that I had more of a business partnership with him than a relationship; since it transpires that his 'relationship' was with a bunch of honey-blonde scrappy tarts elsewhere. (This is now the 7th name I've got evidence of).

I've always believed that he only asked for divorce once I'd brought massive profits to the table. It's now looking more and more likely that I was indeed taken in by a Con man for my business acumen, professional skills as I'd suggested all along.

This news has just strengthened my case; indeed I feel stronger knowing he was conning me throughout our relationship; because I dwell less on wondering what happened to our love and friendship. That was a complete con obviously.

I have a date with a Fraud barrister in a few weeks. (He's invited me to a wedding in his Aston Martin DB7; staying at a nice country house hotel) .... well, might as well kick-start an impromptu conversation over some wedding cake!

Blimey, I used to go out with someone called 'Dickhead', he dont arf get around!!!!! Even my Mum used to call him that and worse. If he didn;t lie then he would have said nothing at all. Better off without Dickheads. On occasions when I did not dislike him so much, I used to call him Knobhead.
I am now with a brilliant man, ......
'down with the 'Dickheads'

Zara