Help Me - Please

If you know that she has cheated on you, and you can not deal with it then think carefuly, about what you want to happen next.

You will have a whole host of things that will need to be sorted, and your childrens welfare is at the heart of this.

If your wife is having an affair these things will be the last thing on her mind. How it will effect you, your children, and your home life, only one thing on her mind, sex and the thrill of doing something so wrong.

What do you want the outcome of this episode to be?

Reconciliation?
Turn a blind eye thinking you can get over it?
Marriage over?
She leaves?
You leave with or without the children?

etc.

Hard concepts, but all thing that you can attempt to control, if you are clear about which options are the least worse to contemplate. I cant tell you what is righ for you, only you can do that, in hard times its how you react that makes all the difference.

Good luck

GM

Carl
i have the deepest sympathy for you.
Great if you can save your marriage, i tried hard but my wife didn't want the same, even though we went through the charade (only because she had already got her plans) of relate. it is only any good going to relate if you both want to save the marriage, if she doesn't then you are wasting your time and money.
If you carry on will you ever trust her again, will you forever be checking her phone etc and it is no way to live, believe me.
As others have said the kids are of paramount importance but not at any cost.
Can only wish you well and sincerely hope you can work it out.
C

I had to walk away. Not literally as she walked out but kept me on a string pretending to come back whilst screwing all and sundry. Hard to come to terms with. Very hard. I put a stop to communications. Full stop. Hurts like hell but I didn't cause this and she will have to deal with her own problems. But she lost the one thing she thought she could keep. My daughters trust. And does that hurt her more than I ever could. Yep.