Bad day today

No problem

When I pick my daughter up from the ex, I think she (the ex) has mixed feelings- she doesn't like me having the littl'un, but she likes having the time to herself. As far as I know, she relaxes, goes out etc, and does all the things you can't do when you've got the kids.
Console yourself with the thought that you're really lucky- you have the kids the majority of the time !
As Joy said, try & treat sundays as time-off, some 'you-time'.

I think the title of the song should be changed to 'I hate Sundays'. For me too Sunday is the loneliest day of the week. You don't like to bother your family and friends as it is their family day too. My youngest son is off out with his dad and my eldest is away. I too am going to walk the dog. It is 5 months since my stbx husband walked away from 27 years for a younger model but believe me Jessie it does get better. The love that I had for him has turned sour with the thoughts of what he has actually done to us. Don't cry Jessie cos it will only make you feel worse - like someone once said to me on Wiki - don't go to the pity party cos you will be the only one that turns up - how true that is. I wanted to cry this morning cos Sunday mornings were always our special mornings together but really every day should have been special but it wasn't because unbeknown to me he was sharing parts of those days with someone else. So I didn't bother with the tears - it only makes me look old and wrinkled!! I am now so much stronger than I was - I say to myself "he doesn't love me any more" and that is that so there is no point in caring about it. Please don't be sad - I know how you are feeling - after 7 weeks I thought I would never get to this stage - but if I am here and stronger than anyone can do it. Keep chatting on Wiki it really does help. Love K x

Hi Folks ....

Nope didnt take the dog out ..... it's pouring down here!!

Just about sums up my mood!! Really feeling sorry for myself today aren't I????? Sorry folks. Hopefully tomorrow will be better .... Never thought I would look forward to going to work!!!

Techy - My H will also believe that I enjoy 'me time' the day he has with our Son .... because thats what I let him think ... I'm too proud to let him see me cry as soon as I shut the door!

Hi,

Have you had a look at the coping thread: www.wikivorce.com/divorce/Divorce-Forum/...echanisms.html#31060

Yes, I agree its hard over the weekends. I should have had my children this weekend but its not worked out.

The STBX W has played games with me over the last two weekends.

Try going out for a drive. Find a nice coffee shop, read a paper. Go stand in a book shop and look at some new stuff. Take a look in town at some new clothes. Buy a bike. Join a gym. Paint the house. Take up diving. Clean the car. Empty the garage. See a neighbour in the garden and have a beer over the wall.

You got to try new things. You'll meet some nice people. You dont even have to go into any details about your life.

Its a shit, I know. But right a list and take some action.

Thanks for all your support today everyone. Kids both home and safely tucked up in bed now.

I got through the day but it wasn't the success my ex hoped it would be however!!! Apparently my ex has taken up smoking at 39 and was caught, named and shamed by his 12 year old son!!!! who was most disgusted with his dad.

Now that was the first thing that made me smile today;)

He has apparently doing it on the sly for sometime .... me thinks if he's been deceiving me about that .... what else might there be????

i can really sympathise.i used to feel tortured when daughter went off with her decietful lying father who couldn't give a s... where we end up living.while she was with him i worked my socks off it helped fill a void.Now i feel so sorry for myself working all weeken everyweekend in order to try and keep a roof over mine and daughters heads.Not a penny paid in child support and now ex2b is trying to get our home reposessed.The feelings of love are eventually starting to dwindle as the callousness of his actions after 20 years of love and support really start to hit home.
My worst fear was realised when he took our daughter to spend the weekend with the ow someone our daughter didn't know.It filled me full of fear,probably very irrational however a clear attempt to scare me.Dughter came up trumpts on her return.Oh my god mummy you want to see the size of her knickers mummy they are so huge i have never seen anything like them mummy,mummy you want to see how daddy has to do as he is told all the time and mummy her nose is as big as a toucan's nose.All my fears subsided at that point as i realised theres only one mummy and thats this mummy.