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Seeing ex 2nite 4 the 1st time in over a mth

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27 Jun 08 #29351 by gorgeous
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Hi
When someone special to you is so ill your emotions will be all over the place. Lots of people are here for you regardless of the outcome tonight.
Hope it goes ok x

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27 Jun 08 #29352 by Not here now
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Hi Daisy,
Hope you look stuning tonight, you show him what his missing, but do be careful you know what us blokes are like, we will never really understand you women.
Best wishes for you and your gran.
Let us all know how it goes
Gareth

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27 Jun 08 #29360 by buxtonman
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Good luck Daisy!

My heart is beating fast for you. I know that every time I see my ex it is a extremely unsettling experience. I find myself looking for warmth which is now long gone.

I hope your experience is not destabilising for you. You are obviously doing great and we all wish you to continue that way! I am sure you will do fine...


Andy

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28 Jun 08 #29369 by Chris33
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Hey Daisy,

Just to say I hope it worked out how you wanted tonightm and I hope your grans okay.

Let us know?

Chris

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28 Jun 08 #29375 by Poppie
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Hello Daisy, Thinking of you, hope your Gran is feeling a little better. Poppie

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28 Jun 08 #29387 by Daisy049
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hi guys...

you guys are just so great....where would i be without you eh!!!

well it went ok.....he was here for approx 2 hours...

he hugged me alot when he came in - that was the first thing he did....kissed my face and just hugged me...

did i feel anything ?? yes of course i dont think it was the in love feelings for him....just the fact that he was a friend......i dont get that though after everything he's done.....

we spoke alot about grandma - he listened asked questions....then we moved onto to his work and how that was going, and god could he talk about it......it was weird as he didnt used to talk about work that much...

i asked him if he was going out after seeing me, was he seeing her..he said no, he didnt see her that much as he was trying to rebuild his own life...

he looked sad, tired...

a couple of time throughout the 2 hours he was there we started on sujects - well i did - which we werent going to discuss, ie financials well just that i had done the transferring of my funds, he said he has too.....and then there was the conversation about her....but both of us said he didnt come for that....

anyway he had a chat with the cats, even went upstairs to see one of them....it was wierd having him here.

he knew that the tree/bush thing that we have out the front had been cut back, i told him my stepfather had done it and he asked why i couldnt or didnt ask him, but then he said he knew it was because i was trying to deal with stuff....

he said for me to let him know how it goes over the weekend re grandma, im driving down today gain to see her.....

and that was it he left....another hug.....

i then had a massive row with mum over it....she sent him a txt before he came round saying dont hurt her etc etc, i know shes only sticking up for me, shes had a lot to deal with over the last 4 mths....but still we rowed...she doesnt understand why i had to see him....i said it was ok for her she has her hubby, brother has his wife....she didnt like that saying i had friends, family wasnt that enough..........i felt guilty then for wanting to see him....

so mum and i ended the night with me slamming the phone down.....if its not one thing its another....i must phone her today to apologise....i guess emotions got the better of us last night...

so there you have it...he left and i didnt cry....and i felt ok.....

once again thank you guys....you give me strenght you know....

amanda
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28 Jun 08 #29394 by fredsmith22
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Hi Daisy

You are a brave girl! Glad it went ok but you must make up with your mum. Be careful about your feelings though, dont let him back into yor heart, if that is not what you want to do, it can been hard to work out the difference between your need to be hugged and comforted and falling for him.

Bestwishes to your grandma, and stay safe

GM

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