What Carrie did next ....

Who knows what going on, I would be cautious if I were you, he may be finding it difficult to work out what he wants to do, and he doesn’t like the thought of you not wanting him anymore.

Having split up with my ex, we engaged in a bit of break up S3x, it went on for a week, it gave me hope that our relationship was salvageable, even though I didn’t really want her back, anyway, having proven to herself that she could still have me, she established a relationship with somebody else, which is still going today, 8 months later!

Protect yourself, don’t let him draw you in and then spit you out, be straight with him and ask him to do the same, don’t let him play with you. If he wants to rekindle your relationship get him to say so, if he won’t, then don’t create hope in your own mind just to be let down.

Strong advice I know, but I can’t explain how hard I took that final kick in the nuts,

Good luck

GM

I'd say just be a little careful, but if getting back together is what you really want, don't rule anything out, but also don't get your hopes up higher than they should be.

I hope it works out for you!

Chris

Carrie,

It ain't over till the fat lady sings. However just remember that even through this slightly optimistic turn in your relationship, Alison Moyet is still warming her voice up and she could still burst out singing any moment now.

Men are on the whole not very good with identifying with their true feelings and fight the urge to share them. I think we must think it is a sign of weakness which obviously is balderdash.

I bottled up all my emotions when my kids were due to emigrate but eventually I broke down in work and was crying my eyes out in front of 200+ employees. I was disappointed that I had released it all in front of them but my relationship with them all has only been cemented positively. They now all see me as human not just the mechanical boss in the suit...

He needs to collect his thoughts and priorities (without any external distraction and influences) but you cannot force him. He can only do it when or if he is ready.

You can help by setting an encouraging atmosphere though to try and coax him out of his shell.

Don't know how old your hubby is but could it be a mid-life crisis with him feeling flattered by attention from someone else ?

Is everything in his worklife OK as it has not been unknown for work matters to disrupt a person's life...

He may feel not in control of his life in some way.

The very best of luck to you but please keep your feet firmly on the floor. Corny I know but there is light at the end of the tunnel but the light is still a long way away and you are dragging a large stone behind you but heading in the right direction at least.

Mike
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