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Discuss the role of mediation in divorce. Does it work? How much does it cost? What happens if my ex pulls out? Where can I find a mediator?

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feeling heartbroken after first mediation meeting went to mediation and was hoping for us boyh to reach settlement.ex said 60>40 i asked 50>50 as im on a 3rd of ex's income and need to get somewhe ... 20 Feb 09, by paulkracken Latest 23 Feb 09 by Itgetsbetter	Replies:4 :507	Latest by Itgetsbetter 23 Feb 09
Finally .... the day has come ! Dear All, An going to attend my first 'proper' mediation session with my STBX tomorrow and am really anxious. For the first time in our ten year marria ... 19 Feb 09, by worriedkitty Latest 19 Feb 09 by cariad51	Replies:3 :290	Latest by cariad51 19 Feb 09
fair settlement advice for mediation . wife 37 husband 37 daughter 17 earnings :wife 39000 husband 18000 house equity 160000 car 5000 van 2000 wife pension 75000 cetv husb ... 18 Feb 09, by paulkracken Latest 18 Feb 09 by paulkracken	Replies:3 :399	Latest by paulkracken 18 Feb 09
take out what you put in ( if youre a man !) Hi there just wanted opinions of any peeps out there . we have been going to mediation , married 6 years and I have been looking at taking out what ... 13 Feb 09, by shinyhappypeople Latest 14 Feb 09 by Sera 1 2	Replies:8 :697	Latest by Sera 14 Feb 09
Second Mediation Session - What to expect ? Well ... My STBX and I have both sent our Form E's and all the accompanying paperwork to our mediator today for her to have a look at and we are going to have o ... 13 Feb 09, by worriedkitty Latest 13 Feb 09 by rosiegirl	Replies:3 :543	Latest by rosiegirl 13 Feb 09
Stbxs income and outgoings Just had the mediation doc sent through. In the financial discussions I have questioned my stbxs income as she does a combination of employed, self employed an ... 13 Feb 09, by Itgetsbetter Latest 13 Feb 09 by slinky	Replies:1 :279	Latest by slinky 13 Feb 09
mediation failed - what next Our last mediation session was a disaster. X2B would not co-operate and basicly went back on everything we had already agreed at mediation. The mediators didn ... 10 Feb 09, by shazza Latest 10 Feb 09 by Sera	Replies:5 :600	Latest by Sera 10 Feb 09
Mediation Really nervous got first mediation appointment with STBx tomorrow, really not looking forward to the backward, forwards, not agreeing environment but willing to ... 04 Feb 09, by catliz Latest 04 Feb 09 by IKNOWNOW 1 2	Replies:7 :671	Latest by IKNOWNOW 04 Feb 09
Mediation - quick route to divorce How many people have been to mdiation and done divorce soley through them and solicitors without having to go to Court. Really want to keep it out of the Court ... 30 Jan 09, by catliz Latest 30 Jan 09 by rosiegirl	Replies:2 :320	Latest by rosiegirl 30 Jan 09
OFF TO MEDIATION NEXT WEEK,WHAT TO EXPECT Hi, We finally going to mediation next week for our first joint meet,how best can i prepare for this,what i dont want to do is waste the first session by be ... 29 Jan 09, by Happy Days Latest 29 Jan 09 by rasher	Replies:4 :461	Latest by rasher 29 Jan 09
Mediation and Redundancy We are going through mediation on the financial side and on the children's arrangements. Children's arrangements pretty much sorted and agreed Have had 2 sess ... 29 Jan 09, by Itgetsbetter Latest 29 Jan 09 by Bobbinalong	Replies:1 :341	Latest by Bobbinalong 29 Jan 09
Expensive waste of time!!! Hi, just wanted to let others know that if both of you don't want to make mediation work then don't bother going. I went last week to try and sort out a split w ... 29 Jan 09, by BRM Latest 29 Jan 09 by BRM	Replies:6 :360	Latest by BRM 29 Jan 09
Have of Statement of Outcome, what next? I have had a Statement of Outcome for two months now (wife gets house, I get clean break in a nutshell). I made full financial disclosure during mediation on fo ... 25 Jan 09, by alhambrajack Latest 25 Jan 09 by alhambrajack	Replies:4 :551	Latest by alhambrajack 25 Jan 09
Tentative praise for mediation Just to let you all know that today I attended my 3rd and last mediat ... 08 Jan 09, by Blueintears Latest 20 Jan 09 by maggie 1 2 3	Replies:16 :1462	Latest by maggie 20 Jan 09
Consent order following mediation Hello again...a thought just occurred to me...if we have agrred at mediation adn am now going to go to solicitor for consent order...do we still need to fill in ... 08 Jan 09, by Blueintears Latest 09 Jan 09 by Young again 1 2	Replies:8 :1047	Latest by Young again 09 Jan 09
ADVICE URGENTLY NEEDED! - MY SON AND I IN MESS!! Dear all, where do I begin? here goes.... married for 1 year 9 mths, I have a son 7 yrs old, wife is step-mother she also has joint custody of my son. < ... 05 Jan 09, by lachico Latest 05 Jan 09 by Young again	Replies:1 :474	Latest by Young again 05 Jan 09
prep for mediation does everything come out? Hi Guys. I have been to lone mediation session stbx is due in this thursday. I suspect we will both be in pretty soon after that. After she confessed to me last ... 05 Jan 09, by Bobbinalong	Replies:0 :372
Mediation My ex says he's been told by his solicitor that he can have his half of the equity from the property (which I live in)whenever he wants. We have one child, who ... 02 Jan 09, by Rosie101223 Latest 03 Jan 09 by dukey	Replies:3 :397	Latest by dukey 03 Jan 09
Wife wont go to Mediation My wife is refusing point blank to go to Mediation, as advised by her solicitor. She is making everything very difficult for me, I am leaving the famil ... 14 Dec 08, by No1 Latest 17 Dec 08 by No1 1 2 3	Replies:20 :2150	Latest by No1 17 Dec 08
Why did he really go? Last night I had my first mediation session with my stbx, I was very nervous about the whole thing, I knew seeing him would hurt me . It went ok and we have sor ... 05 Dec 08, by Hollyett Latest 06 Dec 08 by anotherone 1 2	Replies:9 :1067	Latest by anotherone 06 Dec 08
Mediation...? Help! My stbx walked out of our first mediation appointment as he didn't like what he heard and spat his dummy out. 3 months later, I have obtained legal ai ... 04 Dec 08, by fluffy76 Latest 04 Dec 08 by D L	Replies:4 :407	Latest by D L 04 Dec 08
help! My mediation session this week was three hours long. STBX did not want to include savings, pension, did not want to consider mortgage quotes. In the end the m ... 27 Nov 08, by shazza Latest 29 Nov 08 by NellNoRegrets 1 2 3	Replies:14 :1460	Latest by NellNoRegrets 29 Nov 08
Update..help please? Hi... Just to re-cap. I am 45 h - 58 House 190k mortgage 22k forget p ... 16 Nov 08, by Blueintears Latest 16 Nov 08 by LittleMrMike	Replies:4 :452	Latest by LittleMrMike 16 Nov 08
Help at my wits end!! Hi all, Had Mediation (second lot) to agree a physical separation and job done last Thursday, or so I thought!! Stbx's solicitor has just written to mi ... 13 Nov 08, by Saddened Latest 15 Nov 08 by Saddened	Replies:2 :453	Latest by Saddened 15 Nov 08
Frustrated but won't swear! Hi..Hey here's me thinking I have put in my petition, originally seen solicitor in July, sent off forms for mediation.....might be in my own place for Christmas ... 13 Nov 08, by Blueintears Latest 13 Nov 08 by Zara2009	Replies:2 :426	Latest by Zara2009 13 Nov 08
Mediation after absolute? I posted this on another thread so hoping i get answers here that i need? My sol told me a few months ago that when my decree nisi comes through my stbx &am ... 04 Nov 08, by cindygirl Latest 12 Nov 08 by cindygirl 1 2	Replies:12 :1028	Latest by cindygirl 12 Nov 08
Just been to mediation, made it feel very real!!!! Hi Today was our first appointment with divorce mediator. I want to talk about it here as I'm a little frustrated, but at the same time, feel we made a ... 10 Nov 08, by theOptimist Latest 11 Nov 08 by theOptimist	Replies:4 :466	Latest by theOptimist 11 Nov 08
Starting mediation I will look back over previous threads but my mediation letter came today and i will be ringing on Monday to book my first appointment. What do I need ... 19 Sep 08, by Billie12 Latest 11 Nov 08 by Imediate	Replies:6 :587	Latest by Imediate 11 Nov 08
Should I go to mediation Hi All Just after some advice from you guys. It's been 18 months of trying to sort out the AR through sols (very expensive). We are close to an agreeme ... 03 Nov 08, by BRM Latest 03 Nov 08 by BRM	Replies:4 :495	Latest by BRM 03 Nov 08
What now?? Hi Guys, am confused!! Went to the first mediation session, my STBX and I disclosed our Assets and Liabilities and the mediatior produced a summary for ... 01 Oct 08, by Tallulah1 Latest 31 Oct 08 by Hants Family Mediation 1 2	Replies:8 :1105	Latest by Hants Family Mediation 31 Oct 08
Mediation visit required - advice Hi Long story - but I have always asked, begged my stbxw to go to a mediator for 6 months now. Even asked her solicitor for her to attend ( i have all ... 16 Oct 08, by numpteenuts Latest 31 Oct 08 by Hants Family Mediation	Replies:1 :386	Latest by Hants Family Mediation 31 Oct 08
Mediation - Can't afford it! Due to go into Mediation in the morning, I earn over 30k so will be charged £200 an hour after the initial consultation while my ex will pay £50. The trou ... 23 Oct 08, by Shepmeister Latest 31 Oct 08 by mocktheweek	Replies:4 :517	Latest by mocktheweek 31 Oct 08
Moving forward with mediation Please can anyone help me with the following ? - Can anyone recommend a website/organisation where I could go to find a mediator in my area ? ... 29 Oct 08, by worriedkitty Latest 31 Oct 08 by Hants Family Mediation	Replies:6 :540	Latest by Hants Family Mediation 31 Oct 08
Mediation vs Collaborative I am due to go to mediation next week and can't believe that it will take several sessions. Would it be quicker and less expensive to just go straight to collab ... 26 Oct 08, by Blueintears Latest 26 Oct 08 by dukey	Replies:6 :553	Latest by dukey 26 Oct 08
settleing money and assets Hi My wife has applied for divorce and i have aggred and sign the papers she wants to sell the marital home even through i have chidren living their and its ... 24 Oct 08, by chris1 Latest 24 Oct 08 by Zara2009	Replies:1 :410	Latest by Zara2009 24 Oct 08
Don't know about mediation I'm really not sure if I think my mediation is working or not. We have been 3 times now and the mediator always seems to side with my (nearly ex)husband. We ... 22 Oct 08, by becky123 Latest 23 Oct 08 by marriaa	Replies:4 :527	Latest by marriaa 23 Oct 08
i don't understand... My partners solicitor sent out a request to the mediation services for a first mediation session. He has now received a letter back from mediation basi ... 16 Jul 08, by hollys800 Latest 17 Oct 08 by Blueintears	Replies:6 :752	Latest by Blueintears 17 Oct 08
Married in Spain - which law applies? We married in Spain. Husband is English, am Spanish. The children were born in England but have dual nationality. Can I get a divorce through English c ... 07 Oct 08, by Homme Latest 07 Oct 08 by Ephelia	Replies:3 :443	Latest by Ephelia 07 Oct 08
Didnt Go to Mediation. Hi All X2B wanted mediation to sort out financials. I went to my individual appointment and following this it became clear that as X2B would be vol ... 30 Sep 08, by Gingerkitty Latest 30 Sep 08 by Gingerkitty	Replies:2 :486	Latest by Gingerkitty 30 Sep 08
Situation - any advice Married 10 years Living together 15 years 1 daughter 13 years Mortgage £25,000 - 7 years left on it. House worth £180,000 -ish. - £25,00 ... 28 Sep 08, by Billie12 Latest 28 Sep 08 by Sun 13	Replies:3 :524	Latest by Sun 13 28 Sep 08

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