Why should we continue?

Gargoryle: i would never encourage my husband to give up on his boys...even i am not the mother of the boys i love them so much and they are part of my life as well.
In the end of the day they are innocent and we have to ensure them that whenever they come to us we both love them.
the main problem is that the ex wife always find reason to disturb us...she doesnt work and it is like we are her hobby or something like that..
last year i found her in front of our house 22 pm...as i mentioned we live 30 min distance from each other....or turning up to our workplace...sending CSA to our neck..last year my partner had to provide information to CSA 4 times...in the end CSA told her off as they didnt find any problem..
not like she needs the money but she acts that my husband still needs to report to her..end of the day...she did a runner...came out had affair over 4 years..
as a sad it is long story...we just want to provide the best for the boys to make sure they are happy.

upsetstep wrote:

Gargoryle: i would never encourage my husband to give up on his boys...even i am not the mother of the boys i love them so much and they are part of my life as well.





Well, if this is so, why ask the question "Why should we continue?"

It does give the impression that you could entertain the idea of not bothering.

upsetstep - I completely understand why you may be feeling the stress of this situation.

However, with the greatest respect, they are your husband's children and it is for him to figure out the answer to the deeper question.

As his wife, I'm afraid that's what you took on when you married a man with children and your role is to support.

These boys will be half-siblings to your own. My 24 and 26 yr olds have younger half-brothers. The situation for me was far from easy with their mother; nevertheless, I can see that my own children love their brothers and I definitely think it's worth supporting.

I'm a bit confused about:

we travel over 200 miles these weeks to collect and return the kids to her house

and...

as i mentioned we live 30 min distance from each other

Perhaps I'm reading it wrongly?

Shezi