Short Asian Marriage - Husband took my jewellery

If you have put it in the form E then the judge will insist on a valuation of it. I hope he doesnt do what my partner stbx did. She stated that the jewellery was bought in Eqgyptian pounds, making the total value about €1,000 compared to the true value of €20,000...stick to your guns

hi

iam a respondent in my case with my stbx. she has kept all the dowry jewellery and not mentioned this in the form e. around £14000 work. i have receipts and photos of her wearing this. iam not after this this back, she can keep this but she is still after further assets from me which i don't have.

The judge did not seem that interested in the dowry gifts but i believe this is a asset and should be concidered.

please advise.

Hi Miss Anon,

Reading your story, I feel like I've written it. I'm asian myself and married in Sep07. I left my husband after 10 months due to him and his family's appauling behavour.

After the split he had taken all the money from our joint account and transferred to an account of his own. I had a big battle infront of me to get my clothes, jewellery etc back from him. My solicitor and I tried so much to get my items back from him but he kept playing games by not replying to our questions and dates of when I could go and collect the items. I had no choice but to instruct my solicitor, who still thinks i'm going about it wrong to go through to ancllary relief.

I eventually got my items back but he has retained a few which I give up fighting for now. I'm now going for the matrimonial home but am taking a BIG gamble with everything.

Well, it depends how you look at it.

He has returned jewellery given by your family and offered to return what your family gifted him. He wants to keep what was given by his family. From his point view, this is fair and can be seen as such.

I think the problem is his family's gifts to you was gold jewellery which has rocketed in price and your family gifted him depreciating items. Otherwise I doubt we would be having this conversation.

I think there is some law that says that the gift donor can claim back the gift in extremely short marriages.

Alpa wrote:

got my items back but he has retained a few which I give up fighting for now. I'm now going for the matrimonial home but am taking a BIG gamble with everything.

Bless ...that there are no children to be abused here is fantastic .... happy financial fighting

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Hi Alpa

my sister is getting divorced and her solicitor isnt really addressing all the points, like getting her jewellry back etc.

which solicitor and or barrister did you use?

Hi:)
I read this post with much interest being a divorced Asian myself. i got my Absolute decree about 2 years ago but we never settled on the gold as he refused to return my gold back given to his family. After 2 years he has filed auxillary relief claim against me and is now fighting for alot more than just his gold.
I am not to worried as i think the only person who can fight your corner is yourself, hence my reason for not using a solicitor (plus the costs).
The reason i never gave him his gold back was he exaggerated the amount and i asked for a revised list but none came. also he would not agree the Clean Break order upon receipt of the gold. i later learnt he was getting remarried (not sure if he has) and i felt glad i hadn't given in to his bullying as i may have ended up funding his new marriage (i saw his photo on shaadi, jeevansathi websites as my proof of his intention). this was a man who doesn't pay for his children and made himself unemployed so he didn't have to give me anything via CSA.
I am holding my ground and not going to give him anything until the courts state it, and i know i have to fight.
Anyway Good Luck.
Maybe the courts need to look at situtaiosn like ours differently.