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STBX - no legal representation

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24 Nov 16 #485989 by MooToo
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Hi All

My STBX doesn't have legal representation and we are now at the stage of sorting out our finances as both have submitted the form E's

Has anyone else been in the situation where their other half hasn't had a solicitor?

My fear now is that there is going to be a lot of my solicitor coming to me or sending lots of letters to him at my cost....

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24 Nov 16 #485993 by Clawed
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My ex didn't have a solicitor, I had a Consent Order drawn up by Brethertons through Wiki but had no legal advice. The consent order was rejected twice (once because he had no legal advice and once because I didn't) each time I just re submitted it making no changes with a letter saying that we were happy with the situation the third time we were called to court to tell the judge that we understood and did not require legal advice and he sealed it.
It delayed things having no legal advice which caused stress but kept the costs very low.

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24 Nov 16 #485995 by MooToo
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Thanks Clawed, In my case my STBX has a final salary pension scheme and I earn a lot less than him, plus we have a few assets to divide so I decided that legal representation was a better option for me but he declined to have any....

I think I might be in for some fun :(

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24 Nov 16 #485997 by Bubblegum11
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My STBX doesn't have a solicitor and I do wish he did!
Are you going down the court route or consent order?
I think to some extent you will end up footing the bill more as a result because there just seems to be more to do and unnecessary communication. I'm not using a solicitor for my financial proceedings, but can see that had I done so it would have cost me a small fortune in correspondence as my STBX is a bury his head in the sand type and doesn't like to comply with court orders:( . I think if you are both invested in the process it helps but he won't have anyone advising him or managing his expectations which can lead to unnecessary litigation.
I would suggest speaking to your solicitor and give very specific instructions about unnecessary correspondence and your need to keep this to a minimum.

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24 Nov 16 #486002 by MooToo
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Your ex sounds just like mine! I have done all of what you have suggested, we are heading into the financial element now though and I suspect he may get a bit feisty because it involves the pensions....

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