dissapointed

Hi

I have got reply from my solicitor (I told her all what happened and i really need advise) but she said
"you have indicated that you do not wish to now pursue Divorce Proceedings and that you wish to negotiate a financial settlement direct with your Husband"

yes, we tried but situation has been so changed and i explained her on email.

and no answer for my question.

I am so dissapointed..
I don't think I can negociate with him.
(I wish I could)
Even if we did negociate, but she didn't answer at all my question.

totally stuck..
My NFLP appointment is next Wednseday...

I want to proceed divorce anyway..because there is no point to wait.

Shall I chage solocitor now? before she charge more?

any advise/comment is very helpful...thank you.
moca

Moca,

As far as changing solicitors is concerned - wait until you have had you call with NFLP - and then consider how you wish to move forward.

From your previous posts I think that your husband would be unlikely to come to a sensible agreement just by you talking to him.

He seems a long way from accepting what is in UK law a fair agreement.

Remember that the divorce proceedings are separate from the financial proceedings.

Go ahead with the divorce proceedings IF you are sure that you want to end the marriage. This process is quite straightforward and Wiki (as well as other companies) provide a low fixed price service for this. This part of the process is not the real problem - but you need to do this first.

Once the divorce itself is in progress then you apply for ancillary relief (a financial order).

The first stage after that is that you and your husband have to disclose your finances.

And then you could then begin to exchange offers to see how far apart you are.

Once you know if there is a BIG or small difference of opinion you can decide how best to address the gap (legal action, mediation, direct discussion etc)

downbutnotout,
Thank you for your reply.

I want to divorce ...(I didn't want to , but I can't stand with anymore being ignored by him or be shouted (at email)etc... and also he has got someone to live with.. Why he need "wife"? beside his girlfriend?))

So..just proceed divorce, then after that, financial issue is sout out?
by the way,Is it easy to change solicitor?

moca

It is pretty easy to change solicitor at this early stage - because you have not yet issued divorce proceedings or ancillary relief. So I would say if you are going to change - consider changing now. It is harder to change later on.

Why not focus just on the divorce itself.

You can do that on Wiki using NFLP at a fixed price of 249 pounds.

Why not ask your current solicitor for a quote to process your divorce petition and obtain for you your Decree Nisi and Decree Absolute? Be clear that you are not asking about ancillary relief - just the straightforward divorce.

Then when they give you a price for this you can compare with a fixed price service.

If they want 1000 pounds just for this process then it is a good indication that they will also be charging too much for the ancillary relief process.

So in summary - get some quotes. Be clear on what you are asking the solicitor to do. And make an informed choice. This is far better than to just give one solicitor an open cheque book and let him spend your money with no clear indication of costs given to you at the start.

At the moment, what she has done fo me is..

The land registry office sent letter to husband to "freeze" his house.

Sending a letter to him to tell her his financial detail (but he ignored! )

Reading 2 email from me
and reply Once.

that's all.
because she was away for 4 weeks.

She kept my original marriage certificate.

I got her cousultation 3 times (1 hour each) but she didn't charge (surprise...!)
The first one was initial consultation, second one was ..just she want to check if I can apply legal aid or not (unfortunatly, I can't).

the third time (this summer), I asked her about divorce then explain recent happening (not e-mail, I went to her office). then she said "you don't have to pay".

She charges 450 pounds for proceeding divorce, but her secretaly said "if more correspondence, we charge more" So I think..each email is charged (to chech draft etc) plus 450 pounds will be the total cost for divorce(without financial thing)...

moca

Moca,

Just to add that whoever you use to process the divorce - there will be court fees of 340 pounds - so you need to add that to the solicitors fees to get the total budget that you need.

DBNO

thank you for your advice!!!

the sooner is the better....
anyway..I make a list what i want to know, what i have to prepare etc.. to ask NFLP on Wed to make most of the time!

thank you again!!!
moca xxx