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Ex-wife''s solicitor at FMH during moving out

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12 Jan 15 #453566 by dcbh
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Hello,
My ex-wife moved out of the former marital home last January and when she did (I was out of the country working), her solicitor was present throughout the moving out process. My question is: is this acceptable practise - it struck me as odd at least, potentially unethical at worst? It annoyed me when I found out as at that stage, the house was wholly mine - and I clearly didn''t invite him!
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12 Jan 15 #453568 by Action
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Maybe she felt that she needed an independent witness in case you accused her of taking anything when you got home. Unless a short marriage then the house is a shared asset so could not be wholly yours.

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12 Jan 15 #453569 by dcbh
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Action,
Probably but I was just wondering if it was unethical? The house was actually mine on that date: it was the day the financial settlement came into effect and from that point, she no longer had a financial interest in it - she had already been paid out.
I have tried to find out if I paid for her solicitor''s visit but this is unclear. I paid most of his other bills...

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12 Jan 15 #453572 by Fiona
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Turning this about a moment , why do you think it was unethical.? If your former wife had occupancy she could invite who she liked.

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12 Jan 15 #453573 by dcbh
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Technically (to my non-[thank God]lawerly mind), she no longer had occupancy in pure financial terms - the house became mine on that day as the money to make the settlement was paid to her on that day: from memory, she didn''t actually start to move out until the £££ transfer was made.
I just think that for any client to invite her Solicitor to the FMH when she was moving out is odd; especially as his office is one hour each way away from the house and the moving out must have taken around two to three hours (must ask my friend who was there on my behalf). Odd: and perhaps unethical. A friend of a friend''s immediate reaction was to question the nature of their relationship.

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12 Jan 15 #453578 by driven40
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in the words of a current film
"Let it go, Let it go"

Look she moved out once the money had been transferred you wouldn''t move into a new property until you knew all the i''s were dotted and the t''s crossed. She had an independent witness to prove that she did it correctly. She probably wanted to make sure that there was no come back as you were out of the country, in my mind that was a sensible thing to do.

Sorry but you wanted an opinion

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12 Jan 15 #453580 by dcbh
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I let it go a year ago. All I was questioning is the ethics: as one who forked out 100k in legal bills, this is small beer.

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