Costs to me of husband speaking to my solicitor!

Hi,

This is my 1st message so please bear with me.

I am currently going through a divorce and have had a terrible time with my solicitor.

My husband initially said that he was representing himself,and so for months he was speaking to my solicitor on the telephone and even face to face at a court hearing.

I have incorporated costs for this and when I said I was not happy to my solicitor they said that there was nothing they could do.

Even when my husband did eventually employ a solicitor,he still continued to speak to mine in an attempt to keep his costs down,this continued for a further 2 weeks until I had to again express my dissatisfaction to my solicitor.

It just doesn''t seem fair.Has anyone else been subject to this?

Thank you so much.

Solicitors are meant to take instructions so tell him/her not to keep talking to your STBX.
Your sol should be telling you everything that is being discussed.
There may be a plus side as endless solicitors letters add up very quickly especially as my gabbin B**** charged £29.50 just to post ..yep post.. not write and this didn''t include postage.

I initially used a solicitor whilst my ex self repped. He too drove my costs up so much that I could no longer afford the fees.It was costing him nothing at all to continually bombard my solicitor with letters etc, all which was costing me a fortune.I told my solicitor firmly not to communicate with him directly any longer and I would not be paying another penny if she did.That worked.

Funnily enough thats exactly what I did. My x was taking the p*** trying to screw every penny out of me. I self repped and every time I got a letter in from a very dopey and obviously not very experienced solicitor I wrote reams of questions back. To be fair my x''s behaviour was totally unreasonable and the solicitor had obviously not been privy to all my x''s affairs and could not understand why I would not play ball in every direction.
Cost to me..my time and stamps. Cost to my x ? I would hate to think !! I also used to send all periodic payments to her solicitor on the basis that if my x was going to use a solicitor to nail me then every transaction had to go through the solicitors office. In the end the solicitor asked me politely to send all future correspondence directly to my x as she wasn''t engaged by her any more.

Hi,thank you,it''s a nightmare situation,everything is being delayed by my husband.Are you any further forward now?

Yep all finished now except couple more payments . They are catered for and I really couldn''t care less about my x now.

In my case I was fortunate in that we were about to go to the first hearing and so there was nothing he needed to continue bombarding my solicitor with which included bank statements which she seemed to be analyzing.
He was very unhappy when my solicitor said she was no longer able to communicate directly with him following my instruction, so much so that he made a complaint in court.
My solution was to dismiss my solicitor who I could no longer afford and begin self representing. However once the court process began there was no virtually no need for any communication between us.