mike100468 wrote:
Sera,It seems to me the judge in your case was trying to be helpful,
Mike
Thanks guys for all your imput. Mike: I totally appreciate the judges helpfulness; he did indeed ask me if I would find it helpful; and I thanked him enormously.
But the problem is that my ex's solicitors simply REFUSE to accept my massive contributions; and keep implying that my claim has "ne legal merit". Therefore; in 'borrowing' the £10k from our pot (via my husbands bank account) I see this as a waste of (our) money if indeed they turn up for a round-table meeting; refuse to accept anything I say (or my expensive barrister will argue on my behalf) and we'll be back to Court anywayz; and heading for a trial that I can't afford to be legally represented at.
What's weird in all of this; is that I accepted
LESS than my husbands first offer.
My husband and I mediated a settlement one YEAR ago (end July 2007) Based on the profits I'd made on renovating the house, selling houses and Land to developers; supporting his buisnesses (in Partnership) over two years; (wereby I received £4,000 only) scrimped and saved a further £45,000 etc; etc; etc;.
I'd given up my £35,000 a year job; to assist him and pursue the renovation project and work with his businesses interests.
He asked how a judge would work. I said that despite Short Term marriage; he would look at my contribution, look at my losses of income, look at my expectatation (to have enjoyed the fruits of our labour: ie: OUR profits) and decide that a Lump Sum Order would be paid to me.
Having done the sums: (amicably and politely over coffee around our living room coffee table)He offered me £100,000 (a year ago)
I said it was probably less than I'd be entitiled to (in our unique circumstances)Astonsihingly; hubby-dearest says "but you're worth so much more than that"... and promptly offered £150,000 (I told him to see a solcitor to draw up a
Consent Order).
Next day; he returns from sols stating "You'll get nothing, it's short-term marriage, get out of MY house" etc, etc.
Six months later, no Offer. My sol asked if he'd made an offer; I said I'd take the LOWER offer of £100,000 if it meant I didn't have to go to court. He refused.
He eventually offered £25,000 equal to a 2% agency commission fee (on bringing in an offer on the house at £1.2m) I reminded him that an agent doesn't go into your house; spend two years and thousands of pounds of their own money in decorating it in order to get a commission fee.
His offer after one year stands at £30k and a further re-imbursement of £10,000 for photographic fees; which he expects invoiced. I contributed £26,000 in photography; and I don't see why I should lose out on income tax on a Divorce settlement lump sum.
Then ther's the £19,000 on just one of my Cards which was used for the house; the support of Business etc; etc;....
I KNOW I have a good Case. (Two soliciotrs have said I should expect £100,000 - £250,000) Last week I've offered to walk away from all of this mess for £50,0000 Which would re-imburse only my late-mothers Inheritence and restore my financial status prior to marriage.
That would NOT re-imburse loss of income, or anything else I was promised.
WE made a lot of money in two years. He sits on all that money; thousands in the Bank; new Audi, lending his mates loads of money; pushing the profits into his parents accounts. Lying on Form E.... the list goes on.... and I'm left jobless.