Help please!!

I split up with my husband in December 07, no kids, 7 years of marriage, been together 19 years. At first, we were all going along ok, we agreed splitting things etc. The house was on the market, and now it's starting to get a bit nasty cos we've had an offer. Thing is, my ex2b's Aunt is getting involved. He won't let me talk to him and makes me talk through her. She, again, was ok at the beginning, but now has started to lie to him about things I've said. She's also accused me of lying. Is it now time to get the solicitors in? I've been trying to avoid the divorce avenue, as I wanted to go down the 2 year seperation route, but I feel I'm being forced into it by him being unreasonable.

Castess,
If you possibly can, do everything in writing, so there is absolutely no ambiguity. As soon as solicitors start acting as the communication medium, costs escalate rapidy and exponentially. Why waste your hard earned unless it proves absolutely necessary? If you were to petition before the 2yr point, you are going to be the evil one straight away. Bite your lip till it bleeds and keep trying to be reasonable. I know how hard that is, but believe me, confrontation = megabucks
Mike

Do everything you can to avoid solicitors. It'll only end up costing both of you loads of money.

I'd suggest writing directly to your husband, bypassing the Aunt, and explain clearly the problem you're having in talking to him. Tell him that you want to avoid solicitors and that the Aunt is getting in the way of your communication with him. Don't slag off the Aunt, just tell him that you want to do this directly with him rather than through a third party. Maybe you could suggest a face to face meeting to get things moving?

Best of luck

Perhaps you could also suggest a mediator or counsellor - it may still cost some money but much much less than solicitors.