petition

Received petition I was told by his sol that it was for my unreasonable behavior now the papers are here it says irretrievable breakdown. There are two pages of stuff justifying apparently what I have done there are many untruths. One includes accusing me of an affair think this is a way he reckons he can claim costs. I have a platonic relationship -my kids come first always have and always will.Do I just tick no on question 5 or do I have defend the reason.If I agree to sign does it mean I am saying yes to the letter of untruths? So confused. I would like more info before seein sol next wk.

Hi Gorgeous,

The best thing to do is to deny the reasons but say that you accept that the marriage has irretrievably broken down.

We both know that these men cannot admit to being the ones in the wrong and no matter how hard we try will be unlikely to ever get them to recognise it was their behaviour not ours that led to the breakdown of our marriages.

You like me, just want the divorce I imagine. It would be costly to defend and there is no real point, you know what he is saying is untrue and the only other people to see the petition are the court and legal teams; unless you choose to show anyone.

As for costs, there should be a part on the petition that says as to whether he is wishing you to pay costs or not. He may well have asked you to pay costs; if this is the case tell your solicitor that you are willing to pay your own costs but not his (this tends to be fairly common practice).

Hope this helps.

xx Sarah xx

Hi there Gorgeous
I would like to second what IKN has said above. This is exactly what I have been advised to do by my solicitor.
I have yet to be served with Petition, but have seen draft which is full of bullsh!t and very weak particulars going back to my alleged unreasonable behaviour in 2003. Police sectioned my X2B after he had been out on a drinking binge and he alleges that I had him sectioned because he was playing hide and seek with the Police after telling me that he was off to meet up with his mum (who died 30 years ago) ... nice to know I have so much power over the Police as to tell them their job!! I think he convinced them to section him by playing "peekey boo"!!
I, like you, was angry when I read the draft particulars, and wanted to cause hurt to him by cross petitioning for his adulterous relationship but at the end of the day this will delay the end result (divorce) of what is potentially an irretrievable breakdown of marriage.
Keep in touch.
GKx