Tips for self repping

I am just starting the ball rolling to go to court to get the FCO sorted so I can get my DA. A year ago we had a deal we were happy with. A year on he now wants a deal that totally favours him. Sell the house, no provision for the children to have a home, he keeps ALL his pensions and takes 50% of the equity. He lives with his OH who he was with 6 weeks after he moved out (I had 18 months of aggressive/unreasonable behaviour prior to that). They live in her house which is mortgage free and enjoy a joint income of approx £70k. I earn £7,410 and pay the mortgage and all the bills which basic CSA maintenance from him for our 2 children. His solicitor would not communicate with me the minute I went self-repping (I had just paid £3,500 to one lawyer without a single face-to-face meeting!)which forced me to get another lawyer just to try get an update. I feel helpless as a self-repper. His solicitor has sent some really awful letters which are bordering on personally insulting. I did respond to some of them which I shall now refrain from doing again but I am beyond stressed and although I know I have to do this I don''t know if I have the strength to fight him and his awful solicitor. I know I just need an end in sight and if the judge gives him everything then so be it. At least its over. Words of encouragement definitely needed.

Hi, I have been off line as my internet connection has been down.

Keep a level head as hard as it is, I do know the feeling of being misrepresented or being harrassed by a legal team.

It would be interesting to know what his legal team have been saying to you, I hope that they have not offered you legal advice, anything which gives an indication of what you should do is basically legal advice, what a legal team should say to an unrepresented person is "may we suggest you take independent legal advice".

Harrassing and gladitorial statements have no place in family law (or for that matter I believe in any other part of the law).

Basically, you husband has made himself intentionally homeless (not that he is homeless) and saying that you must sell the house, have no maintenence, he gets all the pension and that you have to pay for the house in the meantime is really daft.

I think it would be wize to make an application to get your Absolute and also at that point write to your husband asking for a contribution to the joint mortgage other wize you will apply for a maintenence pending suite. I think you can apply for maintenence after the Decree Nisi.

Try and keep calm and in the meantime make sure that you hae all your papers, replies and correspondence contained in an arch lever file - that way you have all your documents in easy reach.

Hi Soulruler,,, This is brilliant advice and thanks a million,
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