Why dont they take their belongings?

Rasher - lol!

My ex said the reason he didn't tell me that he had someone else was that he thought I might "go berserk and sling his stuff into the street".

I said that he clearly didn't know me very well as I wouldn't give the neighbours the satisfaction and wanted to keep my dignity. I also said I clearly didn't know him very well either as I never thought he was a coward!

I can't believe how pathetic he has been. I think his stuff is still here as he thinks everything is the same except that he doesn't live here. So he thinks my Mum will still be glad to see him and that I want to hear about how he's spent his weekend etc.

A few months ago, if I'd put things in the garage he would have made out that I was a horrible person. Now I just don't care what he thinks!

As soon as my husband walked out to the arms of another woman, i moved all his stuff into the garage, and i mean everything even all the rubbish he hoarded in the loft. It felt great to put all his belongings away and lock the garag door. Then i completely redecorated the house so now it feels like home. Much easier to move on when there's nothing in the house to remind you he ver existed. i did ask a third party when he was moving his things from my garage but he now says he has nowhere to store it as new relationship did not work out. They leave their things just in case the affair falls through and then presume they can walk back in. Look after yourself, your worth it!!

I know that my STBX doesn't attach any sentiment whatsoever to anything or anyone - he told me to take all his clothes to charity - so I sold the good stuff at a table top sale and spent the money on a facial!
As for paperwork - I still have everything neatly filed in my study. He didn't even have the courage to contact me for the paperwork he needed for the form E - as a result it was incomplete and he now has a long list of questions to deal with from my solicitor.
Next week I am getting all the jewellery that he bought(inc engagement and eternity rings) valued to see if there is enough to pay for a weeks holiday with the girls.
I too have removed all reminders of him from the MH - I took down any pictures he bought - gave away the 42" plasma TV that I always hated and gave his best leather shoes to my new dog to chew!

My advice is here is 'Whe it gone its gone' - not point in waiting for him to come back - its been 8 months and so is not going to happen - sorry,

Rosie - love the bit about the shoes !!!!

It seems that it's always men that leave their possesions in the ex-wife's home and not the other way around. Or are there any blokes out there whose ex's have left stuff with them?

My theory is that all men are like dogs - they mark their territory. And as p*****g everywhere would be socially unacceptable - they just leave things lying about.

My ex has always done this and it has always driven me crazy. But I confess to being a big softy and whilst progress is being made, one year on, I still have loads of his stuff in the house.

I am now redecorating the whole house, cleaning and tidying every last nook & cranny - so I am enjoying having a great big sort out as I go!

Em x

Good for you, Em!

I am going to do a thorough springclean and get some repairs done. Then I shall redecorate. I'd really like to move out and get my own place but we have only 4 years to go on the mortgage and now isn't a good time to sell!

I was a good boy me I took all me binbags with me!
I had the opposite problem the new fella she'd been banging thought I had such good taste in movies and music I never could get any of that back.
And the ex was a bit partial to all me post She never did manage to give me any of them financial letters that came for me.
What was them other things I left em for free..........Oh yeah .....the house and the car and all the furniture!!!!!!
Enjoy Gaye and Bazza!
All the best
Pete