What to do ?

Hi

I have been in a stale relationship for some time and have recently been told by my wife that she is suffering panic attacks when I come home from offshore and that I am making her feel unwell and I cause her emotional break downs.

Fist time I have heard of all of this nonsense but she has a sister who will testify that I am verbally abusive towards her which is untrue.

I work offshore and she said that I have to leave the marital home on her health grounds?

Anyone have any advice of what to do or where I stand I know most of this is an act

Thanks

The law is different Scotland and I only vaguely know the law in England and Wales but the general rule is here at least never move out of the matrimonial home until all the finances of your divorce have been settled.

If she's saying living in the matrimonial home is affecting her health and she has the support of her sister why not suggest she goes to stay with her sister for the time being until you can both figure out a way forward.

Hi,

firstly, I hope you don't have kids. What follows is my opinionated advice based solely on my experience.

If you feel the marriage is over then as Spinit said, do not move out.
- get your financial data together
- speak to a solicitor for general guidance (not necessarily giving them the impression that you need them for the whole process)
- speak to your wife and ask her what's really going on and if she feels the marriage is over and what she thinks may be a way to resolve the situation. You may consider telling her that it's a real possibility that the home will be sold and tell her you're not moving out as that would not be "legally advisable".
- Also consider mediation if things are getting emotional. I'm currently doing that via Zoom. Less costly than using solicitors who may not mind steering things towards court.
- if it's looking like divorce, you'll likely need to have been living apart for 2 years to get an uncontested divorce (where both parties agree to divorce). I'm ASSUMING this is the same in Scotland. But you would want to have the house sold first of course.
- I hope it all pans out with minimum stress and upset - good luck!
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