Why do I feel like this?

Hi Sera and Phoenix,

Sera, at least you got the squeeze on the bum and peck on the cheek!!! And Phoenix poor baby, what a devious woman. We should form a We Were Mugs But Not Anymore Club. Still, they have to live with their consciences,(if they have any) not us.

The worst remark my husband ever made to me in one very bitter row was " Well I'll just wait until your mother dies, and then I'll get half of her money as well"

I will never be able to forgive him for that. My mum was always so kind and welcoming to him, even though I now discover she didn't like him at all. She hid it well.

Thanks for your replies, we may have been foolish, but at least we gave not took.

XXX Fleur XXX

I can see both sides of this. But I dont know much about your situation so will try not to judge. From his side he will be feeling the loss. But he is isolating himself by going out. I did this so I know where he is coming from. No one can just shrug it off. Well almost no one. I still do it now. There are times when I am in some club chatting up someone thinking to myself I can still do it. Its like 2 fingers to my ex. But my ex cant see me and its a bit hollow realy.

It just shows that you are not a total bitch that you feel the loss. You will feel guilt. But you have to think of yourself. Just wait and see. It will sink in eventualy for him and may hit him like a train. That will be hard for you as you have to maintain a distance and also be supportive. Hard to get right. I dont envy you. C

Hi Marshmallow,

Thanks for you reply. It's helped to have a man's perspective on things.

Of course I feel guilt and all the other emotions that come with a decision like this. My husband has told me that he knew it was over too, he just didn't want to be the first to say it.

I just couldn't continue in a loveless and friendless marriage, feeling like a housekeeper and mother rather than a wife. Had there been affection and love between us I would still be fighting like a tiger for my marriage. Sadly, there wasn't.

I know my husband would probably have carried on in the marriage regardless of how bad it became out of pure habit but I care enough about him to wish a better life for him too. I honestly hope that he finds somebody else to share his life with. I worry about his future as he is a bit of a loner who doesn't connect with other people very well. Still I am his 3rd wife and he managed to find us.

I certainly didn't expect to find myself single in my mid fifties either but who can carry on pretending and living a sham forever??

It's a sad life.