Ending relationships

I''ve wrote on here already about my husband meeting and old flame and now dosent know wot he wants. I''ve told him how I feel but he said his heads messed up and dosent know wot he wants. I know I''ve hurt him by name calling and sending him away but I''ve told him I need an answer by the end of April as I''m beside myself, the feelings inside, the pain I''m going through, just want him back but obviously his gotta want to come back, but if he not coming back then I just need to talk to him to finalise everything as we have a mortgage and to boys 18/21. But when I say anything about moving on or I say his living elsewhere or shall I pack the rest of his stuff to take he gets angry.do u think his leading me on or really dosent know wot he wants. I get so confused. That''s y I''ve given him a date to think about it coz I can''t keep going through these emotions. I''ve not text or called him and leaving him till end of April.

I know you want answers and to now where you stand but the more you push for a response the more you will back him into a defensive corner.

However hard it is don''t contact him. Give him the space to decide. You might find your ok on your own and having some independent will make your relationship stronger if you both decide to continue with your marriage.

Thanx

the status quo is usually the first response. It took a big blowout from my side to get my ex to realize that was it, i wasn''t taking it anymore.
Know what you want, and stand for it. Letting him procastinate is not going to lead anywhere if you feel you need answers. sometimes, they need a black and white choice: you either commit to repair our relationship 100% or move out. The "i need time"is b*llocks in my opinion.

I think the thing that is getting to me is he has stayed at her house the last 4 weekends. He says his in the spare room and there is no relationship that they r just talking about old times and they have a disabled child/man together who''s 32 and my husband hadn''t seen him in over 30 years and they just talking and I honestly believe him but I feel the more his there the more I''m loosing him as he works away in the week. But it''s because he won''t finalise anything and if I try he sounds angry about it. Well I''m no contact till end of April, let''s c how it goes

People will treat you the way you allow them to treat you.
Spare room? Puleaseeee!
Take some time to heal yourself and then decide if you will allow him to treat you this way.
Best
PG xxx

So your feelings don''t come into the equation,well not in his eyes it seems.

Yes we can be treated as badly as others want to treat us if we allow it.That in itself is saying you can refuse to allow anyone treat you badly,you have that power,not them.
Personally I think he maybe mixed up,but cake eating it comes to mind,never mind the jam and cream also,this man is just not thinking about the woman he married and the children of that marriage,he is just thinking about himself and his feelings.....
You say he works away during the week,well that surely is time to think about the situation,then weekends with her????

I am so very sorry sweetheart,but wake up and smell the coffee,he is playing you bigtime.None of us wanted to acknowledge what our Ex''s were doing but we had to.For me to acknowledge that Twonk played away was very hard,but he did,so cannot deny it,same as your''s is,and the lies??
Oh they are so good at lying,they even believe themselves..

Do the no contact,nothing,nada,zilch..save your pride.Only you know if you may go forward with him,personally I think he has made his choice,he just has not got the guts to tell you,or he is waiting for the grass to a funny shade of brown,then he will come back expressing never ending love.Just like mine did and countless others...

Just take care of yourself,your the person who matters,not him.

Luv and cwtchs
Afon Xxxx