An all important question.

Forget the love side as we all have a definition of love.
So why do we care so very much about the lieing cheating scumbags who thought so little about us that they were prepared to take all and then dump us and Sh** on us when it suited their purpose ? Why does it affect us so much?

I don't know, but I guess its because when we fell in love we were in love with what we thought they were. Plus, its such a disappointment to find out you've invested so much of your life on someone who can seemingly just walk out without a backward glance.

It shakes your judgment in everything.

While my ex was still about though I knew he was leaving, he was very civilised and polite. He kept saying he still cared about me and wanted to make sure I was all right.

But since he;s been gone he's been much more unpleasant. He comes round and moans or shouts about things that I think aren't his business any more.

This is very simple to answer.

''Because we where in love and have morals and values that we believe in and stand by''

There are some people like most of our ex's that can just walk away and disregard all the feelings that they once had if indeed they every had them.

So the reason you have these feelings for your ex is because your a good, honest person !

Take care

Phoenix1

Polar wrote:

So why do we care so very much about the lieing cheating scumbags

I care because I took vows. Because I'm a good caring person. He doesn't honour our vows.

I've pretty much just answered the same question in Candys thread: Have a read:

www.wikivorce.com/divorce/Divorce-Forum/...m-so-much.html#43077

One year on; I care a lot less......

This is a question I keep asking myself, why did my wife cheat on me, and why do I still love her and want her.

My wife had depression, and still does, when she did it. But I still find it hard to accept, but I still love her.

I just wish I could switch some emotions off and move on.

You do lose those feelings in the end as time goes on the pain of divorce does ease ,not that i would want to go through this ever again.I no longer think of my ex in a nice way tbh i can't stand him he can go boil his head in a pot of peas for all i care.

guys we didnt ask for any of this...

we loved our husbands and wives...still do I guess..

you cant switch those feelings off....but and here I go, times a great healer ?? hhhmmmmm...

Daisy
xxx