Just had ex on doorstep

Good on you Driven, stick to what the agreement was, hopefully he won''t try again.

Thanks LG I am glad I took the time to speak to the solicitor and talk through what I could and couldn''t do I didn''t shout I was polite and to the point I have since he left kept the door locked with the key in as I don''t trust h not to have one and just turn up the good thing was I saw him drive past so managed to get the little one out of the way so as not to get upset if there was a confrontation.

I have now fled the house just needed to get out I will go back later after we have had some fun buying things for the Easter egg competition next week I am sure I will get a stroppy letter off his solicitor but we had prepared one in Friday to send if this happened do I will email it later so his solicitor has it first thing on Monday

Surely he can''t think he can just turn up unannounced when he feels like it? Maybe he thinks the arrest warrant on the occupation order doesn''t apply to him?

Well done driven. You must feel v shaken and disappointed. Such a shame for you and your son but x will learn and surely will improve. Take it easy x

Tough for him, and good on you! He will slowly learn to respect your and your son''s boundaries!!!

Well he''ll get to be aware of the seriousness of it all if he starts to challenge it. Of course any attempt on his part to not play by the rules affects you and your children. Sometimes I think the emotional side of divorce over rules the lawful side of it or at least it tries to. That''s when things can get really nasty.

It never ceases to amaze me when someone wants a divorce but then continues with the relentless mind games which causes so much more damage. I hate it when the kids are used for this reason but anyway for what it''s worth I think you are strong enough to deal with him. Going out and doing fun things is exactly what''s needed. Far far better thing to do then sit around going over and over it. The more we pour over something the stronger the memory of the event. You''ve done exactly the right thing, stayed calm and polite with a no nonsense approach.

Now go and get those Easter eggs...maybe have one now. Chocolate makes you happy. In that case have two lol

Have a good day

LG xXx

Haha the Easter eggs are going to be minecraft eggs!!! For the competition I am building the shoebox world as I write I will let you into a secret I don''t like chocolate!!!

Just wish mum could be here she would tell me the right thing to do about stbx I missed her so much on Mother''s Day and it''s my birthday in just over a week I have never in 40 odd years not been with her on that day no matter where I was in the world I travelled back to be at home with her

Driven. Firstly - well done for forseeing the potential situation and being prepared. I am always shocked how any interaction with the dh leaves the most enormous shock waves and the the time it takes for them to settle. I sort of resent it and see it as a waste of time and emotion. I hope you calm down soon. Well done for protecting your child.

Secondly - wow - I know you miss your Mum. But what an amazing relationship you had with her. I am so proud of you both.

Hugs