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Thanks for that insight. Really makes sense.

She has been having "online" counselling. I have no insight into that.

She has helped me get through my own problems but as time goes on she has changed from someone trying to help in my home life in a nice way as I first set up home to now saying "I am not your skivvy" .... I have never asked her to help? She just did.. Giving her thoughts and ideas. Somewhat insist any that her way is best..

Now she says she has returned "a new person" concentrating on her and not basing her life on me and not fitting in with my wants and hobbies.

Trouble is she is gorgeous and knows his to use it.... Need to harden up!

Can''t see a future and don''t think I should have all these worries about a relationship. It should be easy and fun.

Oh my...alarm bells ringing all over the place here !


At this stage in the relationship it should be fun,fun and more fun !!

Sounds like this relationship is hard work already..

Good luck

is it worth the hassle ? xxx

Esox,

Some good advice here buddy,
Gorgeous and knows how to use it???

Sorry!!!!
The ugliest person in the world,with a heart and soul made of gold is gorgeous.....

NL has issues that she needs to deal with,not you.
Just protect you,no-one else will do it for you,you been hurt once,bring the self preservation shutters down...

Luv and cwtchs
Afon xxx

And then... We have had the girl I know she can be today.

Cooked dinner together, sorted through all the holiday pics, enjoyable and fun. Why can''t it always be like that? Sweetness and light ?

If you are experiencing inconsistent behaviour, you should be open to the possibility that you are being manipulated.

It will be sweetness and light until next time it isn''t. Depends whether you want to spend your life treading on eggshells wondering which facet of her personality will greet you on a particular day.

Sorry if what I am about to say sounds harsh or offends you. Perhaps you should consider a period of extended time being alone. Then you can be sure you are in a relationship for the right reasons rather than fear of being alone. Because I can''t think of another reason why you would consider putting up with the extremes of behaviour, sweetness and light or putting up with nothing short of abusive behaviour.

One extreme or the other is the biggest warning sign there is.

Know what you mean showgirl and appreciate the advice. I would not have asked if I was not willing to accept the responses.

Abusive? I am not seeing bit as that. More nagging.
The not knowing who will greet me is a big worry. She is needy. Constantly needs thank you''d and reaffirmation that I think the world of her etc.

I have had virtually 3 months alone while she was away travelling. Though we where in touch daily. I am happy living alone now and settled into my new life but.... I get the point.

We have a day out in town planned for Saturday. These sorts of events usually end in some form of atmosphere due to something silly happening and it getting blown all out of proportion.

Think the writing is on the wall. Miss nice face won''t stay fixed on for long.

She is right under my skin tho so won''t be easy giving it up.

Esox