Here we go again.....emotional turmoil!!!!

Thank you......he did it last time......right you want this, you can sell the house, you can get another job, you''re doing it all as I don''t want this.......it''s just too much for 1 person to deal with, I''m not super human......is it reasonable to say I''ve made this decision but we need to digest this and agree on a plan together, I can''t possibly take it all on my own shoulders and look after 2 kids, I''ll make myself ill and that will be no good for anyone!!

Could it be he is delegating in the hope you give up?

The priority of any court will be the needs of the children and if you are splitting up their housing needs will need to be met. The status quo cannot be maintained as 2 homes will be required to enable the children to access both parents. Just because he doesn''t want it, it doesn''t mean it isn''t going to happen.

jaw

Hi! Mrs Smith2012
my husband use to say the exact same sentences but it is his way of making you feel so guilty you will not leave.You only get one life and the children are still young so will adapt better then teenagers.

I can''t tell you it''s not difficult, because that wouldn''t be true, however I have felt more able to be myself since we''ve been apart. This has made such a difference to mine & my daughters quality of life.
Staying in an unhappy marriage that you''ve been coerced into is no good for anyone, and sets a dreadful example of what a relationship is about for your children.

My older daughters both suffer depression and substance misuse problems, I''m convinced if I''d found my courage sooner their lives wouldn''t be so chaotic.
Just a different perspective, not meant to upset or offend.
Tink x

It''s so difficult isn''t it....I need to make it very clear he is a good man, a wonderful father and a loyal, honest person.....I''ve just fallen out of love with him & have lost respect which I''ve come to realise is much worse!!!!.....We met when we were 17, good god, to me now that sounds absurd, I don''t want that for my children....we''re both fortunate in that neither of our families have experienced marriage breakdowns, but of course that now makes me the black sheep....I need to find my inner strength to accept its over and move on with as much dignity as we can both muster simply for the children, he will forever be in my life and I accept that!!