once bitten twice shy

Ive been divorced nearly 5 yrs now.I have seeing a lady around 6 months now.We now are at the stage of her wanting to move in and im scared if we split up say in 2 yrs,, is she entitled to anything.I have the house under my name and all utility bills etc, were not getting married or anything like that, i just wanted to know how safe i am with my house and if and what she could be entitled too if we split up , as i couldnt go through what i went with ever again , id be selling the big issue lol. Ive just said as not to complicate things, she just becomes a so called lodger, and she was fine with that.Any advice would be great as id like to move forward but also scared as to loosing what i have worked for and gained over the past yrs etc .Got to cover my back .

Ok so you have been seeing this lady 6 months. Is it not a bit too soon to be moving her in? Not judging you or anything. Just seems a bit soon thats all. I would be worried also.

But at the end of the day. You only have one life. And you have to grab it while you can.

But I would talk to her. Tell her your worries.

Aside from that. You are not married, her name is not on your deeds, so you owe her nothing if you split up. C.

In reading your short post it seems to me that you do not want her to move in. Really think about what you want and then go for it.

I agree with Marshy though, communicate with her. We men are typically emotional infants and I find our ability to effectively communicate with the women in our lives is usually poor. Look her in the eyes and tell her if you are or are not ready for her to move in. Be honest and reveal yourself.

It might be the end of the relationship if your needs are different. It also might not. But by being honest and open you are going in the right direction...

I have to agree that 6 months is not very long at all in real terms and that fact that you are expressing doubts does beg the question of if you are ready to take this step with lady in question.

If she is genuine in her feelings for you then she will give you time to sort yourself out. And the gentlemen are right, talk to her about you concerns. She may possibily take it amiss that you are concerned about the finance and property aspect of the whole issue but if this an underlying anxiety and you dont talk about it, it will eat away at your relationship anyway.

You dont say how much time you currently spend together. Perhaps a gradual approach whilst maitaining your own homes might be possible?

Hope whatever you decide that it all works out for you.

Thakyou for all the replys.My main concern is that ,if we break up after 2 years she would be entitled to something even if we are just living with eachother ,i have heard this that she could, or is this incorrect. As regards to only being in the relastinship 6 months and her moving in, i agree it is a bit quick but i think its worth a try and going in the right direction and just go for it if it dosent work out then it dosent if it does it does. Its a bit scary as being married 18 yrs then being single and then got to the stage of enjoying being single i could do as i wished put my music on when i wanted, eat as and when and what i liked , go to bed when i wanted has its plus sides , but then again i dont want to be single all my life either and miss female company.So all in all if were not married and shes not on the deeds and even after living with eachother for more than two years shes not entitled to anything correct ?

Hi Stan
I can see you want to protect yourself and I think this is the right thing to do. However what happens to your lady friend if she moves in with you and then things go wrong, will she have somewhere to go.

Yes she is living at her parents at the moment so if things didnt work out she would go back .Im just worried not about her or our relationship if it dosent work out ,its the cost if it does and where i stand etc