Trust at home ( wife )

Hi new to the site .
I found some very sexually explicit text on my wifes mobile to other men she said she can''t stop what people send her .noting happened she said ??? . There is no trust left in this relationship .
Now do I leave the marital home what about tha kids ????

Welcome to Wikivorce.

Stop and think a minute - is there an actual need for you to leave the home? You are just as entitled to live there as your wife is.

Why where you looking at your wife''s phone? I''m a bit confused as to whether she sent the explicit texts, or they where sent to her? Where there a large number of texts? Are the texts the only issue here or is there more?

I would advise against acting in haste, and that you remain in the home for the time being.

Here has been a onging problem re my wifes binge brinking and depression for some time , text messages found by accident . Also concerned for the welfare of my children 6 and 7 years old.
Having difficulty deling with the emotional fallout from what seems to be the break down afthe 6 years .
Hundreds of texes ? That I seen and she denies everyone ?

Hi Big one. Leaving is not the answer right now. Ok the text messages are damming. But are they the end of the world? Is she having an affair?

There are some classic signs.

Is she?:

* Missing for a long time. Overnight?
* Have a lock on her phone, have more then one phone?
* Take phone calls in private?
* Always texting someone?
* Stay with "friends" from time to time?


Nothing wrong with the last one. But if its in conjunction with other things then maybe its important.

But lets cut to the quick. She may be attention seeking and asking people to text her or contact her. She could be flirting as a way of affirmation. She could of course belong to a married adultery website. Dont know. But forget leaving for now and of course divorce.

But I would watch her closely. Follow her on a night out if you can to see who she meets up with and where she goes. Gather information. Keep an eye on the phone. Then come back here. C.

I was in a similar position but needed to bide my time and get concrete proof which I did. You may have to be somewhat devious but you need evidence or for her to own up to it. If she has an Iphone it is easy to perform a check.