Absolutely heartbroken

Can someone please help me to understand. My eldest daughter living with x2b who also poisoned her against me, and youngest is living with me. Not only did my sister take his side and cut me out of her life, she also wanted me sectioned and little one taken off me. Its been ten months since she fell out with me.

Today its her child's birthday and my daughter didn't know if she should go to party cos of her mum's lack of support. I told her that the kids shouldn't come into the rows and to make her own judgement. She has decided to go but won't stay for sleepover. Just spoke to my mum and she says my sister told her that I am telling her what she can and cannot do. She also said that I listen to all my daughter's phonecalls and tell her what to say.

I am half crying with the hurt and half like a raging bull.
Can't think straight. Its not fair. Even after the divorce, I am going to be bullied by my own family. It smacks belief!!!!!!!!!!

Hi Lillyann

I'm so sorry you're having such an awful time with your sister. I'm not particularly religious but someone once told me that friends were God's way of apologising for family (sounds a bit harsh unless you have a problem family!). I know it doesn't help with your situation, but you have lots of friends on Wiki that know the truth. Shame on your sister for taking your ex's side in things and using your children to hurt you.

Take care

Mad x

Lillyann
A mirror image I think.

Its cr** isnt it, so unfair. My sister hasnt spoken a civil word to me for over 2 years now but my Ex helps her round the house and they socialise together. I think its the unfairness that gets to you isnt it? None of my family would ever snub my Ex but at the end of the day they are my family and offer me kindness and support. But my sister never gave me the chance, I left him and she text to say I was never to contact her. Meanwhile she got all his side of the story and hasnt spoken to me since. It hurts a lot that someone you grew up with can treat you this way.

Thing is, if you are like me you can get too bogged down in thinking about it. 2 years ago a friend said "stop thinking about her, if someone mentions her say that you dont want to talk about it". She also suggested going into an empty room a screaming everything you want to say about sister to get it out of your system!

I hope you have support from other members of your family, dwell on that and think how lucky you are to have them. Your youngest lives with you (I hope I got that right) take pleasure in that and be as good a mother as you can be.

It hurts like hell but you need to get beyond that. I actually feel sorry for my sister at times because I know how gullible she is and how easily my Ex has duped her. She is loosing siblings and family because she is listening to him.

Take care

Tinny