How long would you wait for partners divorce?

(((jenna)))

Sorry to be so blunt:(

But the saying "Having your cake and eating it"
comes to mind.
You are worth so much more than this behaviour,remember we only walk this way once,do not waste any more time on someone not worthy of you.

Luv and cwtchs
AfonXx...............................

Jenna

There are 2 types of people in this world

Doers, and those who allow others to do everything for them.
He falls into the later category..and I hold my hands up..so do I. It took an ultimatum to sort out my actual divorce and I am thankful for it. I just buried my head constantly.
I was the same, joint debts, etc etc.
You know what? tell him to get all the joint debts into his own name, divorce his ex and move in together..by such and such a date. If he truly cares, he will do it.
If not, then you know the score.
Some of us just have no initiative, and we need a swift kick up the bum to sort it.
My missus gives me lists, as its the only way I get anything done because, well...I just dont know what I have to do without help!

he sounds like a man having an affair, perhaps? keeping you hooked with the ''I''ll leave her'' refrain but never actually doing anything about it.

From the other perspective, I understand your reasons for not wanting to live with him but perhaps your refusal to move in until he''s divorced feels like lack of commitment on your part? have you considered callng his bluff by saying OK, you''ll move in together and be done with it to see what he says?

mumtoboys - He''d have us move in straight away with no forethought for costs/consequences, I know that for sure. eyesonhorizon - That is precisely what he is like. I think I am going to offer to research, make lists, do everything to help him. If he takes that help and does it then that''s great. If he still stalls then I''ll have to think again.