Your adive please on my relationship breakdown

Since my breakup and for obviouse reasons my son has been goading me . He is glad my wife walked out and he is completely mental. I have asked him as my father has asked him to settle down and get a job. My daughter has tried talking to him and he just laughs. He wants to play all the time and his attitude is terrible.

You all know whats comming

This morning I asked him to pack his bags as I had finally had enough.

He didn't even get out of bed before midday

He has packed his bags and has also left so now I'm sow very clever and sitting completely on my own.

This issue with my son has been going on since before Christmas.

He wont bath or clean his room and the smell is so very bad.

R,

Don't beat yourself up about that. His behaviour as you describe it goes beyond the pale.

Don't let him back in until he accepts your rules. In the meantime, prepare a set of rules.

YA

Hi Ricky, and Welcome to Divorce Hell.

I stand by what others' said about doing the best for your children. I also know; that someone expecting to parent older children is very hard; and obviously she couldn't deal with it. However; those nights alone obviously gave her the head-space to think; you were probably (and rightly) wrapped up with the kids and their issues; whilst your partner was alone elsewhere with her thoughts.

Her being elsewhere two nights per week should've been the flashing-alarm-bells ringing for you. She has at least given you REASON as to why she no longer wants to be in the marriage. (Even if her reasons may seem a little self-centred to you). But we don't have our partners agenda. Your life may have been cosy; you obviously put your friends, family at the top of your list. You have parents, a wife and two kids. But you need to see her point of view also.

You will need to accept that she may have been planning this for a long time. She wasn't getting what she wanted out of the relationship. She took you on; then a few years later; had to adapt to two others; which didn't work, so she wants out.

All you can hope for is a miracle; that now the kids have gone; she may want to be with you again. Or you find closure; and recover from the break up along with us lot!

We'll always add comment and support. There's no right or wrong person in this. You may just have to accept it's over....and talk to people who will help with your recovery.
Sera
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Hi
To be fair to you're wife it does sound like she was pushed out a bit..

I totaly agree that the children could not be sent back because of the abuse but it should have been discussed between you and you're wife on an adult level..

It sounds like you gave in to the children and was blinkerd when it came to you're wife's suffering..

This is understandable as i'm sure after what the children had been through you were just trying to make them happy, however i believe that you're wife as the only mother figure around them should have had a bit more respect from both you and the children.

Talk to you're wife about it try o make her understand that you wanted them to be happy after what had happend, you also need to tell her that you were wrong to push her out and that you are sorry..

I hope it all works out for all of you..
love
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