He's threatening to cut off all money

Hi everyone

Well have just had a delightful long distance phone call with husband who is threatening to have his salary paid into another account (currently working in China) therefore cutting me off financially. He says he has taken advice from a solicitor who said it would be a 60/40 split. I have been advised otherwise - is he just trying to upset me?

My children are 16 and 11 and I have been advised I can't be forced to leave the marital home until youngest leaves full-time education but I cannot afford to pay mortgage, bills etc. on my own. My husband also said he would divorce me as I have said I don't want my children blaming me further down the road for splitting the family when it was he who had an affair not me.

Feeling very confused! Any advice welcome

Linda

Hi Linda

I was very sorry to see this having replied and followed your post over the weekend, I thought you were both going to try and work on things?

I'm no legal expert so if you haven't seen a solicitor yet get an appointment pronto!!

Mirfield:)

Hi Mirfield

So did I but it seems he's just stringing me along and doesn't have any intention of getting help of any kind and is now being quite nasty about money etc. I will make an appointment for a solicitor in the week.

Just not sure which way to turn at the moment.

Thanks


Linda

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Sorry to hear this Linda, mine did that too; hope your solicitor is giving you good advice, and good luck. There's lots of support and help available on here.
Mneme
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Hi there,

This is a horrible thing he is doing not just to you but to the children too.

Has he considere the effect this will have on them? and on the way they feel towards him, my father did something similar to my mother when i was young and to be honest with you i care nothing for him now.. you're husband should be thinking about things like this!!


I work in finance not law, but as far as the money goes i assume his name is on the mortgage too, if this is the case it would be very silly of him to stop paying.

i hope he is paying you towards the upkeep of the children as it is an offence not to.

I say you take him for all you can and make him pay for treating his family this way..

i wish for you and you're children all the luck and happines in the world

love xx

love

As yet he hasn't stopped paying but I am putting things in place in case he does - sometimes I think these are just threats to be nasty and upset me (after all I do deserve it -he had an affair!!).

The latest one is that he is going to divorce me on the grounds of unreasonable behaviour! I have been advised by kind people on here and friends that it is highly unlikely he could that whilst he is still working in China and will be until the end of the year. He would need to obtain proof of ID and marriage certificate etc. but I am preparing for him to get nasty. The main reason being I am refusing to pay a credit card bill he ran up in China whilst conducting his affair which he claims was on company business. I say when I see the proof of that I will pay it but not until then.

I have moved on from distraught to angry especially as my 11 year old son is having severe problems dealing with all this at the moment and my husband pretends to be concerned about him from 7000 miles away!

Thank you for your encouragement


Linda

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