Good News

Erm...............Although fairly new to this site, majority of it makes for scary reading and is quite sad, reflecting how most of us feel living through these divorce experiences.

However......I wanted to share some good news....my stbex has agreed to move out - thanks to mediation. What joy, i feel i can breath again after months of choking emotions and sadness , he felt ashamed (i think) into agreeing a compromise with me as there were other adults there to witness how incredibly hard i was finding his unreasonable behaviour. Just to be clearer: hubby confessed a five year affair last Jan and wanted me to basically put up and shut up about it and hoped we could sweep it under the carpet. Err, NO! This man has frozen me out of his emotions for years (have only been married 7 years)and i finally found out why. Forget all the other detail (like, let me see now...he was sleeping with ow when I was expecting our second child)He is going to leave the mh. Halleluja!!

Now I havn'y exactly jumped up and down for joy yet as the divorce petition still hasnt been issued and i do know that this verbal agreement is not legally binding but early signs look encouraging: he has been looking at rented accommodation today.

This is the first time in 6 months that i can genuinely smile about something and i just wanted to share it with you!!!

Regards
M

t&e

enjoy the smiles

It must be a relief, its a really awful thing to have to live in the same home in those circumstances.

Hope all goes acording to the verbal agreement and more smiles come your way

Now you can change your name to 'excitedandincontrol', the way you should be. Sounds like the shackles are breaking.. My husband has now stopped mediation because he did not like what the mediator (obviously experienced in this field) was saying and he could not bully me in front of a witness.

Good luck!

Mrsnomore

Thanks the relief is enormous, I know i cannot get sucked in to a word of what he says....and seeing is believing but it was amazing how it happened and even though i was petrified during the entire session...it was poetry in motion to watch a bully trying so hard to be charming in front of strangers who could see right through him. I am thrilled!

Smiles are big ones!!
lol m

Yummymummy (great name!)

Thanks, bullies are a pain in the a**e arn't they? Everybody thought and some still think my stbex is lovely, charming, real nice fella...until they found out what he really is and he cannot stand that his false persona has disintegrated which he blames me for. I was supposed to play his game and say , It's ok , darling you go ahead and wreck everything we have/had and I wont tell on you..this was when he was contrite. When i did have the audacity to tell our friends how he was and still is treating me he got very ugly and reverted back to his old bullying tactis as quick as a flash.

No thanks, dont like bullies and wont live with them for the sake of anything.

Happy days
lol M