I thought I was coping

Everyone tells me how well I have coped with everything that has happened in the last 12 months. Here I am sat at my computer in tears. S2bx has just collected son for the weekend, he hasn't seen him for almost 2 months, various excuses which I wont go into but he now has other priorities.

S2bx looks at me and talks to me like I am a stranger, the girlfriend sits outside in the car waiting, he doesnt go anywhere without her, they are inseparable. How can they be so happy knowing what they have done, how do they sleep at night. I am annoyed at myself for letting him continue to upset me but sometimes just seeing him brings all the pain and hurt rushing back.

Poppie

Poppie,
You ARE coping. Yes, he has sideswiped you again, but it is that pendulum thing - it sways from complete apathy about him to rampant anger and hurt. Him bringing g/f was at best insensitive, but it is another experience to tick off of the list of things that upset you. You are doing great. Don't get mad with yourself - you haven't done anything wrong. Give yourself a treat. Big fat bar of chocolate, bottle of wine, whatever. You survived another unpleasant event intact. Well done.

Mike

Ahhh Poppie

People only see the bit on the outside and I'm sure you are coping really well.
The problem is you don't realise how far you've come and it still hurts inside.

But you've got your lovely son nearly all the time, lucky you and when you haven't do something for you.

Don't let this knock back pull you down have a wiki night in, with a glass of wine .

Marriaa even has a bubble bath and takes her lap top with her but I wouldn't recommend that !!!!!!!

Big (((((((((((((hug)))))))))) from me,

poppie

I thought I was too and I have had a rotten week, felt better Thursday collected a few bank statements that ex has managed to cobble together and call them his financial disclosure (no form E !) his solicitor sent these ! I was looking forward to going through this and it has ended up upsetting me while I have been staying in looking after the kids, hes been taking his new woman on weekend breaks, restaurants etc, even figured out her christmas pressies. Everything seems easy for him and hard for me. Will I ever get my life back together. So you see Poppie you are not alone. Your little poppet will be back soon.

Whatnow.

I'm sure you've come a long way Poppie, and you'll get further and furhter away from the things that have hurt you. But there will be setbacks, down days and tears. That's only natural after what you've been through, but you are healing and getting better

I can't remember what song this comes from, but "if you want to see the rainbow, you've got to put up with the rain". Blimey, you can tell I've started on the wine already can't you!

Hi Poppie

Hey, see poppie, every one has the ups and the downs, me the same this week, bad start, getting better, and will everyone stop going on about wine!! I fancy one and havnt got any:

You do have one over her!! he never comes without her, never goes anywhere without her, ask yourself why? Insecure, and clearly doesnt trust him, thats why they cling like limpets watching every move.

take care Joy x

My x is not allowed to see or speak to without his new wife being present, he's even not allowed to speak to the kids......................... It must be difficult to be married to a man who left his wife and 4 kids thinking that it may be you next.

Keep your chin up, I'm on the wine now!!!