Love me for who I am.........

POSITIVE THOUGHT FOR THE DAY
Should we be concerned with those that reject us? If we know we are good people that have a lot to offer, shouldn't we insist that others accept us for who we are "warts and all"? Shouldn't we just forget people who don't accept us? Do we have the courage to believe in ourselves and who we are?

Your comments please................

yep, most definitely, never sell yourself short to accommodate somebody who hasnt got the ability to accept themselves let alone anybody else. Life's too short to try to modify all of your good bits just to please somebody who doesn't gove two hoots about you.

NICE- show them where the door is, it is their choice whether or not to walk through it. All of us deserve to be loved the way we are and of course, in the way we want to be loved.

I believe if you move forward with the above sentiments in mind, all negative feelings will go and stay gone. Thinking even for a second that if you'd only kept this in mind during the relationship and stuck by your guns is also negative. The person we should be with eventually shouldn't even challenge us in this way. There is no shame in admitting bad choices. We are not infallible.

IDEALISM OR THRUTH?

Your input please...........

Chris

Here is one for you...

There are two lobsters in a restaurant fish tank. One is young, vibrant red coloured and beautiful and the other one is older, slightly greying in colour and down right ugly.

Every time a customer chooses the nicest lobster to boil alive and eat, the restaurant owner replaces it in the tank with a nice new one again.

Does the constantly rejected lobster feel unwanted, ugly and suicidal or does it feel top of the world, lucky to be alive and glad of meeting new friends all the time ?

It all come down to the half empty / half full viewpoint....

Mike

There is no shame in admitting our bad choices but a real fear in making similar in the future. I beleive that i have made accommodations to my stbx over the years as subconsciously i knew that i wasnt being accepted and kept on chipping away at myself- to no end. Now it's a case of standing firm and finding myself again. I do know i deserve to be loved the way I am but some changes do need to be made to safe guard against life repeating itself. Thats the truth and it is idealistic to resolutely say love me the way i am when none of us will emerge from this grim experience the same person. The divorce experience just has to be turned into a positive learning one in order to avoid the label "bitter and twisted" being bestowed on us...- my input - for what it's worth.

I believe that you will emerge out of this as the same person. People don't fundamentally change like that. YES- there maybe a temporary change but not a permanent one. You will come back from this and what doesn't kill us makes us stronger.

I think and have been told that it is my choices that have been wrong. However, everyone seems to be keen at first. I feel it is when you know the other person has lost their enthusiasm for you, then we should act accordingly rather than trying to make them feel what they can’t. This is when people get hurt!

The other thing that makes this difficult is that if you are guarded they will always be keen. It is only when you drop your guard does the other person then start taking you for granted. Both the above probably happen simultaneously.

Should we always be guarded?

The other side of the coin is what is wrong with being single? No stresses, no ties just fun and occasional relations. Either that or a very casual fling with someone who you get on with. These types of things in our age group can go on successfully for years without anyone getting badly hurt.

Nice analogy Mike. I like it.

Don't think that you can always be guarded - no matter how much you may want to be. You can just get caught in the flow.

Similarly you may not want to be guarded but be anyway and hide away in your shell for fear of being hurt again.

(or that maybe just me!)