you were all right

well its my birthday today and what a lovely present i got after believing my hubby walked out for no reason i have now discovered there is another woman

In some ways it kills me in others its easier as at least i know now

having text him i know i have heard nothing i have an address and even a phone number but am trying not to do anything too rash

Hi Laser44

Happy Birthday!
At least you now know that it isn't all about you. Believe me it is easier (although heartbreaking) to know there is someone else. To take all the blame really screws you up.

Don't do anything hasty about the OW, keep your head high and rise above it all. Keep telling yourself that she is welcome to him - besides he may just do the same to her!

Have a good day.

Lost

Happy birthday Laser44, I hope you are going to go out and buy something nice for yourself.
I went through a while of not knowing if there was someone else involved, had my suspicions, and sure enough there was. Like you all kinds of rash thoughts went through my head....., but in the end re building my life with the children has taken priority, we are having more fun than we used to, so thats been my revenge - living well - or at least trying to!

Have a great day,
daisygreen

happy birthday sweetie pie!

I know the pain you feel believe me though knowing gives you the power you need to heal.you now know its not you its him.i sttod in your shoes 22 months ago feeling physically sick to the core.now i am so glad i found out because it helps you knock blame ing yourself for the failure of your marriage right on the head.i got a private detective at the point you are it cost me 5k for me it was the best move as i only had the piece of paper and an address.It helped me see it wasn't my fault and i could have done nothing to stop it.it also helped me understand that the man that i had been together with for 20 years who i would have died for was not the man i thought i knew.

treat yourself gently and remember we are here whenever you need us.

Hi Laser

I feel for you hun, my wife told me on my birthday that she was having an affair. They have nice timing these people don't they! Do they do this on purpose for maximum impact and hurt? I certainly think mine did.

Like people have said, you now have a reason for what's happening and you know it's not you that's at fault.

Make sure you treat yourself to something nice for your birthday, even if it's not today. After getting some crap presents that my wife managed to pick up from the supermarket on the way home (razors, deodarant, a bar of choc!) I decided that I would buy myself some belated birthday presents (nothing much - this month a few CDs from play.com at £2.99 each and some new wine glasses) every month until 15th of October. That will be 6 moinths away from my birthday, and as far away as you can get. Any further away and you just start getting nearer again. On the 15th October I'll be having an 'anti-birthday' party with all my friends and I may even make this an annual event, as I feel my birthday date itself will now forever be associated with another unpleasant anniversary

hi laser - happy birthday!!!! - look forward not back - you will be so better off not having someone who lied and cheated to you!!!!

Take care of yourself - pamper yourself today -

Happy Birthday from me too. Treat today as the start of the rest of your life and don't look back.

x Hadenoughnow