The Duties And Obligations Of A Husband

Hi,

Just received draft copy of divorce petition.

One of the reasons given for the breakdown of marriage is...

During the last four years, the respondent has absented himself from the duties and obligations of a husband. During the past two years, the petitioner has persistently confronted the respondent regarding this but the respondent has refused to address the issue. For the petitioner, the marriage has become and is now an empty shell.

The other two are laughable and apparently I'm an aggressive drunk!!

Could anyone care to explain what "the duties and obligations of a husband" are?

As per my previous thread, I sacrificed a career so she could pursue hers and I, in effect, have become the main carer for the children AND still going to work nights.

I plan to contest the three points as well. Apparently, I have started to consume alcohol in excess. That one might be a bit tricky to do owing to my lifestyle and Im diabetic!!

Any help would be ace.

Cheers

Alan

hi, if you contest the divorce it wll cost you so much more, ask her to amend the petition as you really dont want this to drag on for the extra months it will take to sort out, as it is it takes over a year and sometimes over 2 if you are sorting out financials as well.
what they put in the petition is usually a load of cods wallop anyway, mine said i didnt clean the house and he had to employ a cleaner, as i was working over 60 hrs and he was at home you would have thought he would of cleaned but no it was accepted along with not going out, even tho he put on his E form that we went out 3 times a week, dont pay any attention to it and try to get this divorce sorted as soon as possible.
kind regards
dawn

Hi Alan

Your petition reads like mine did. My x2b said her solicitor filled that bit in. So it looks like the solicitors have a set menu so to speak. If the wife petitions then put ....... If the husband petitions then put......

All I did was deny the rubbish but agree that the marriage has broken down.

Hope it helps

Cheers
Stewart

5573,

Well, I suppose your wife is reffering to the marriage vow you took, ie to love and honour her and endow her with all your wordly goods, which is quite ominous in this instance!

Apart from that it sounds as if she's unhappy because you haven't given her any nookie in the last 4 years.

Not surprising if you're effectively a house-husband AND working nights!

Seriously though, I think it's the solicitor trying to write something other than she's "fed up".

If she has been trying to talk to you about something for two years though, you should have had an inkling of why she's fed up, for whatever reason it may be.

YA

Duties and responsibilities of a husband?

-Leaving toilet seat up
-Clipping toenails in bedroon and not hoovering them up
-Scratching nether regions whilst wearing dressing gown in an unattractive manner
-Snoring in an offensive manner


Joking apart, however ludicrous the reasons, DON'T defend. It will cost a small fortune and a lot of grief. Speak to her and tell her that if she revises the reasons to something less extreme you will sign.

It really isn't worth defending 'a point of principle'. Watch your hard earned money evaporate into a solictors pocket. keep it for your children.

Mike

hi
i'm no expert but like everyone else i'd say its not worth the effort and cost to defend it, but i would try to get her to drop the aggresive drunk bit and give her some suggestions to put in its place, as she might try to use this bit against you later when it comes to contact and residence for the kids.

markp

I found that the sol just listened to what I said and put it down on the petition practically word for word so your wife was probably having a rant and that bit got put in. You can ask for it to be amended before you sign agreement, but I hope that most courts take these statements with a pinch of salt and obviously with diabetes you are not going to be able to drink heavily wihout your blood sugar going way wrong. Ask for an amendment as it is a bit offensive, if you feel that strongly, but otherwise don't fight it and cost yourself more money.

Good luck with it all, most of us need it.